Dear 15:
You DO have a place on this planet. Sometimes, home doesn't feel like the place to be. I grew up in a 3 time broken home (my parents would marry, divorce, marry, divorce, etc. 3 times to each other!!) and I had to put up with the stressed parents taking it out on you. Add to that being tortured in school, and I really felt like I had no place to go. This was before the internet, or texting, or any means of communication to the outside world. Life sucked. Thankfully, I just waited it out, and when I turned 18, I moved out. Your school/home life is NOT an indicator of how things will be forever. Just realize your parents are human and make mistakes, too. Just keep your head down, stay in school, and you'll be able to get out on your own where no one lives your life for you, but you. Trust me, if there's one thing I've learned, it's that things never stay the same for long. Parents can be extremely selfish and fail to realize the little things they do that impact us so much. I'm 33 now, and just got married last week. Did that stop my parents from acting like jerks or announcing while I'm on my honeymoon that they're getting divorced again? NO! The really cool part was giving them a stern talking to by me, and then leaving to go home, without having to listen to it anymore. There's nothing you can do to fix this, so don't try. And they definitely should not put you in the middle. And if they do, you tell them, you're the child, and they should be setting an example for you as to how relationships are. It's a sad day when you realize your parents are flawed and not the gods you thought they were. So like I said. Just do your ';time';, don't allow yourself to be mistreated by ANYONE, and get the hell out when you can. And I don't condone running away. You'll be in a much more dangerous predicament than the one you're in (provided you're not being abused at home). I hope this helps.I need advice, please help Im only young?
When they break up just make sure you stay with your mum, thats if you dont have a problem with her though. Maybe some time away will show your dad that he doesnt 'hate' you, and maybe you can sort something out. Also it might be a good idea to see a counsoller and explain to them how you feel about your parents breaking up and the way they treat you, because you can always get help for that.
%26amp; of course you do have a place on the planet!!
Hi, sorry to hear you are going through a rough time. But parents sometimes say %26amp; do things to hurt eachother, and children sometimes pick up on things and think it is aimed at them.
I am sure your dad doesn't hate you, he probably feels guilty at the things you are hearing or seeing %26amp; the only way for him to react is to shout at you.
I know it is corny but true, when parents fall out of love they do still love the children involved, but see the person they once loved in that child %26amp; they get so mixed up.
I know it is difficult being a child in amoungst it all (I have been there), but honestly, whrn you are older you realise what was happening in the adults head back then.
It is really sad that you feel likeyour dad hates you, but really he is probably hating the adult situation right now.
Hope I have helped a little.
Take care
xxxxxx
aw hunnie i no how you feel my mum and dad spilt up when i was 6 at first they will row and fight for a year then they will suddenly be friends again just friends i love my mum and dad seperated you get duble everything it will be fine also try to break up the rows xx good luck sweetie xxxxxxxx
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