';new stepmom';wants to start off on the right foot with hus exwife needs advice/help from single/ divorced moms

ok toms exwife is a wonderfull/involved mom to thier only child who is 8 yrs old.She is still single and relies on my hus for advice/support regarding thier son who is her life.I know she is not happy about me being the ';new wife'; as she sees me in ';her place';.My question is i don't want to make trouble with her so what can i do or don't do to avoid conflict with her?What does your exhusbands new wife do that pisses you off regarding your kids?';new stepmom';wants to start off on the right foot with hus exwife needs advice/help from single/ divorced moms
The only problem that my ex husband's ';new'; wife and I ever had was when my daughter was about 4. At that age, my daughter liked for us to call her Princess (because she was obsessed with princesses). My husband's new wife, would not call her by this name and made a point of repeatedly telling her that she was not a princess. It only took one time of my child coming home upset for me to bring the matter to my ex's attention. After this one incident, we have not had any conflict (my ex has been married for about 6 years and I have been married for about 7-1/2).





I also have stepchildren and we did not really have any large conflicts with my husband's ex (she has since passed). I think the two most important things are open communication and treating the children fairly. If you do these things then you should be fine.';new stepmom';wants to start off on the right foot with hus exwife needs advice/help from single/ divorced moms
Don't try to replace her. Make sure she realizes that you know you are not the mother of the children, that she is, and that you commend her in doing a great job. Also, don't act as if you understand what it is like to raise the kids (even if they live with you)... it will just make her annoyed.
I would sit down and have a talk with her and let her know what your intentions are and that you really want to get along with her for everyone involved. Also, ask her if she has any expectations for you and what you can do to make this transition easier.
Just try to be respectful of her, try to be friends with her if you can but if that's not possible than at least try to be respectful....make it obvious that you care about their child but you also respect that she's his mom. if she wants you to make decisions with her, be honest and open but not pushy. Try and talk to her about rules, restrictions, etc. and find some common ground......


I'm not an ex but I'm the ';new wife'; as well and so far this has worked out with me and my fiance's x and three year old son.


good luck =) and congrats for being more reasonable than most people, you seem like a great person and I see no reason why you and his ex wouldn't get along :).
She gets involved...don't unless your asked to
Do not let the child call you mom because that would be taking the place of her. The best thing is to talk to her and ask her advise.Tell her you want to help make the family work for the child's sake. It will go a long way with the child if they see you getting along with mom and everyone else. Good luck