Sexual abuse, I need some help/advice or something?

When I was sexually abused, the guy who did it, his cousin sat there %26amp; watched the full thing.. I know its wrong, *if* I went to the police, would anything happen about the guy who watched even if he didn't do anything?.. Its just been running through my head..Sexual abuse, I need some help/advice or something?
Hi Beautiful,


It is not a crime under the law in Victoria, Australia to watch a crime being committed. However, if the person watching the crime, or in this case a sexual assault drove the person there knowing what might happen, or stopped someone entering the room or leaving the room or encouraged the rapist they could be charged with being an accessory to the crime.





It might be worth while talking to a police officer. If you live in Victoria, Australia you could ask for a member from one of the


Sexual Offences and Child Abuse Units (SOCA). They are specially trained and very helpful. You do not have to go ahead with charges but might find it useful to get the Police to let you know what they might do in this situation.


See the link below for your nearest office or you could email them.Sexual abuse, I need some help/advice or something?
Yes. Yes they will. He'll probably be tried as an accessory and or accomplice.
I disagree that anything could happen to the witness based on what you've said, not that he's much of a nice person. If he urged on or helped in any way then yes, but based on the above, no! I hope you find justice. Sorry this happened.
Sorry this happened to you.


';*if* I went to the police, would anything happen about the guy who watched even if he didn't do anything?.. '; Probably not, unless it can be proven that the cousin participated in some way or help the main perpetrator/abuser, say, in acting as a lookout, for example.





This is a hard situation to call, because I cannot predict how it will go. That is, going to the police could work like it's supposed to. The abuser is charged and convicted and punished. Or it might backfire, with people suspecting you made it up. Ladies who have been raped, some of them, not all, have gone through horrible experiences and wound up being considered the ';bad guy.';





If it was just the three of you there, it's your word against theirs. And very likely they will deny it ever occurred. Question, how will you prove it? The police will wonder, how will thay prove it?





Now this sounds like I'm saying better not go to the police. I'm NOT.





What I'm advising is, be careful. Consider carefully what you want to achieve. I suggest that this is the most important thing, how you are adjusting psychologically to the experience and the memory of it, your feelings. What you should be concerned about, primarily, is your future healthy sexual life, and whether or not this experience will be an obstacle to that. So if you feel a need, get some counseling (in amny situations the counselor will report the abuse, better her than you!).





On the other hand, if the most important thing to you is that the guy who did this is punished, if you feel you need to do what you can to discourage him from doing this to someone else, if you feel you can handle the suspicious of others, the police, your school, your parents even, maybe (who suspect you invited the abuse; crazy I know, but it happens), then go for it. Just make sure it is that important to you, because that pathway can be rough.





So I'm saying take care of you, first. You can report it if you decide to. If you don't report it, that's fine. If you think you might want to report it in the future, write down what happened, all significant details, including exact place, date and time. And keep that. If the jerk comes around to harass you, you can always tell him, ';By the way, so far I have held of reporting what you did to the police, but I do have it written down in a safe place, so back off or I will.';
yeah he was sick in the head but he would also be a good witness.