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I really need everyones help and advice on this life altering decision?

2010-04-30T06:26:00.000-07:00

I've hit 30 and realised that my life is going nowhere fast, I'm not really upset about that. The real problem is that, although I'm not anti social, I really feel like retiring from life and getting away from the ignorance is see in society.

Does anywhere have any suggestions where I should go or what I should do?

Sensible answers only please and nothing involving religion as I am an atheist.I really need everyones help and advice on this life altering decision?
A lot of people experience the disconnect. I spend a lot of time by and with myself. This is a chosen thing with me. I just do not find other people's company all that interesting. I also enjoy learning new things and teaching myself how to do new things. When I teach myself, I learn very fast and remember it a long time. I have no trouble with your athiesm, as it strikes me as rather practical and down to earth and logical, even. In answer to your question, I would strongly urge you to keep reinventing yourself by doing the things which appeal to you and if you happen to meet or connect with others along the way, then that is just fine, and everybody gains. I meet new people in restaurants, but it is usually nothing too in-depth. It is just that feeling of enjoying being with others while I dine. Now and then I meet a bright bulb and have a decent conversation. There are lots of intelligent people ';out there,'; and I am sure you will find them just like we all do. It sort of shines through when they open their mouths. You can see it in a person's eyes, too.I really need everyones help and advice on this life altering decision?
In pulling back from society, you will eventually find what you truly want to do next. Thank you for the points. Relax. - Chris!

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You can go live in the caribbean or somewhere quiet or the mountains. Or anywhere you can have some fresh air with gardens and green tress. I understand what you mean and i have that problem sometimes. Many people can just be so rude for no reason...
Life sucks...and then you die!
Lots of people go 'haywire' when they reach 30. They think about all the things they haven't achieved etc., etc. You are still young and being 30 isn't the end of the world. Go trekking, get a hobby, go abroad. Tell everyone you're 28! Get a life!
You are feeling the beginnings of mid life crisis...That's all.
I know how you feel.It's like ';stop the planet,I want to get off';.Why don't you try becoming more pro active and find a cause you are passionate about and get stuck in doing something satisfying and rewarding.I felt just like you and I decided to foster kids.10 years later i am still doing it.It is a good platform for challenging ignorance and i no longer feel the frustration you are feeling.Other than that you could travel and combine it with working for a charity or organisation in any Field or subject.Go with your heart and you instincts,push your personal boundaries and have fun.
I found myself in a similar situation a few years back and started studying permaculture. It is so exciting that I have trouble falling asleep at night. I would recommend finding something that you are passionate about to study, not neccesarily in a school setting.
i feel like living in the middle of nowhere,no neighbours for miles
Why did you HIT thirty.

I am about to HIT 60.

What do you suggest?

What ever ' it' is I suspect I may have done 'it' is as I have always believed what I was taught as a child that the 'world was my oyster'

and

where is it written that you must 'socialise with idiots'?

I don't think so somehow.

Save your power hon.
Move to SF, California. You did say get away from the ignorance?

If you can, volunteer with a charity that serves a cause you really believe in.

Good luck :)
go on a trip abroad volunteering to help children or poor communities in developing countries, most just need your time- they wont pay you but will give you a free trip over there and free accomadation.
Maybe you're depressed and you need to see a therapist or something. There are communes out there where you can live with others and be away from society. Just don't go all ';Uni-bomber'; or anything!
Life can be a hard struggle mate. You just have to know what to look for. How are you family members? Have you spoken to them about your worries? You can e-mail me anytime and we'll throw some issues back and forth. Stay off booze if it makes you depressed too.
Perhaps you do just need a change of scenery. Either go away for a vacation, or if you can, move somewhere that is different from where you are now.

Caravan towing - help advice please?

2010-04-30T06:25:00.003-07:00

We are relative newcomers to the Caravan world and have just bought our second van - a new Hobby 540UK with a Winteroff hitch, my question is about the hitch and towing.

The Winteroff hitch is standard and is very easy to use. However when towing the hitch always moves from a vertical position to an angle, about 15-20% off vertical.

Can anyone explain why? is it bcause it not greased? I never had this problem with my old van; should I be concerned at all?

So caravanners of Europe any support would be much appreciated

Thanks MCaravan towing - help advice please?
You are not experiencing a problem. When the hitch is locked in place its like a ball and socket joint and will move relative to each other. There are limits on the movement, so 15 to 20 degrees movement is OK. The ball and socket should be lightly greased to aid movement. Some hitches move, some don't. Make sure the break away cable is attached to the tow-bar (not round the ball), this will give you extra confidence and security. As for the caravan knockers..... just ignore them most of them couldn't drive one let alone reverse one..................AllanCaravan towing - help advice please?
I agree with Adam
Not an answer I'm afraid but possibly a little more info about the problem, or is it a problem? I have the same thing with my rather elderly Eldis Mistral. It never happened when I was using a Space Cruiser to tow it but ever since I changed to a Previa it happens all the time.
I've seen this happen quite a few times, and I don't think it matters, as long as it's secure. Obviously, it has to rotate, and if it's free to do so it must be OK.

It should be greased, though, so that might be the cause. Give it a dollop of grease and see if it still happens.
Check the v frame on van

for alignment, and yes grease the

tow ball, and Allan you don't

drive a caravan you tow it,

x hgv class 1 driver..
It needs to be greased, you should not be towing without a greased towball.

It doesn't sound like a problem, so it's not something worth worrying about. If at any point it stops doing that, you should start worrying about the brakes on the caravan as the lubrication that allows what you are experiencing to happen also applies the caravan brakes as you slow down.

I have a really big issue. Can anyone give me advice or some help?

2010-04-30T06:25:00.002-07:00

Okay, so in the summer, myself and my mom found this arts program. I started taking acting and singing lessons but recently I've been finding it hard to juggle school and that. I love the acting but am not too big on the singing. I want to quit the singing, but my mom won't let me. My grades are dropping, I'm ending up really tired at school and I'm beginning to hate what I use to love to do.

Can anyone give me some advice or help on the subject? :'(I have a really big issue. Can anyone give me advice or some help?
tell your mom how you really feel about the singing lessons.im pretty sure once you both talk it out she will understand.I have a really big issue. Can anyone give me advice or some help?
slow down with it then. you cannot do everything and be happy. maybe have your conselor talk to your mom about it. he/she might be able to convince your mom that you are slacking at school which is really important!!

how old are you? a junior or senior? then you need to tell your mom to back off. stop going to those lessons. you need to have some free time.

youngers? then talk to your conselor. explain to them your situation. bring your mom in to talk to them with you. im sure that your mom will back down a little bit when around another adult.
What you need to realize is that singiing and acting is harder than it lokks, perhaps it is a dream come true but it also has its cons as well. I think that you need to not give up but if you feel it is stressing you out quit.
talk to your mom about how you're always tired. like how ur grades are dropping, school's more important that the extra classes. your mom will probably understand if you talk to her about it

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What kind of exercise can you advice me to do if i have hunchback so that would help me in any way ?

2010-04-30T06:25:00.001-07:00

i want to know more about the exercises,how to do it, that would me in anyway so that i could cure the hunchback?.please help me because it make my life so miserable.What kind of exercise can you advice me to do if i have hunchback so that would help me in any way ?
My sister has that and was told to swim or lay on her stomach, clasp her hands behind her head and lift up her upper torso. It is painful but it has helped her. Also she does some exersises where you put her back up against the walk and go up and down, hurts but after a few weeks she was a bit straighter.

HELP.. Working Out, Schoool Work, Not know where to start. Give advice on how i can cotrolle my day?

2010-04-30T06:25:00.000-07:00

I use a lilte gym near me to work out. I would workout more if someone could write me a plan for everyday (not the work outs) But have to have good time to study and have fun now i am a C student and i can get B i dont push my self to... have any ideas how i can fit in my work out ... have fun studying and at the end watch tvHELP.. Working Out, Schoool Work, Not know where to start. Give advice on how i can cotrolle my day?
I'm a straight A student. I go to school, come home, do my homework, go to gymnastics, work out, shower, and sleep. I took a break for exams but other than that i workout everyday. if i dont have gymnastics then i run. its all about time management, figure out how long everything takes you and plan it out. get into good habits

I REALLY need some good advice on ways to kick start labor... And sex is out of the question. Please help!!!?

2010-04-30T06:24:00.003-07:00

I'm a week over due with what seems to be a very comfortable bub who doesn't want to come out no matter what I try. Sex being out of the question with my partner away at the moment. I'm willing to try anything anyone swears by, please help me!I REALLY need some good advice on ways to kick start labor... And sex is out of the question. Please help!!!?
masturbation, a hot shower, a warm bath, nipple stimulation, hot spicy food, raspberry tea, walking can help with the start of labor... .or you could do what i did with my first baby and fall on your a s s, and have your baby real soon.. lol! that was a accident, but she is ok.I REALLY need some good advice on ways to kick start labor... And sex is out of the question. Please help!!!?
Eat a strong curry

Take some castor oil

Go for a long walk

Stimulate your nipples

Drink raspberry leaf tea
walking

Help me with career advice please?

2010-04-30T06:24:00.002-07:00

I want to be an Architect, but many people constantly telling me that it is a difficult career choice and the money is very low. I heard that it takes 5 years B.Arch+ 3 masters+1 year doctrine and in 3 years you can get your license. Why they are getting paid so low? Please tell me how much money I can expect as an Architect? If there any Architects or people who know??

I don't want to design people's houses or any buildings and live in apartment whole my life! Thank You.Help me with career advice please?
Use the salary calculator in hotjobs. It looks like with a bachelors, you can make about $40k-70k depending on experience. I used Minneapolis because it is has a pretty midrange economy. So, it would also depend on where you live. You can also do a search for jobs and see what they are really offering. Doesn't appear to be as much as I would have guessed!Help me with career advice please?
hey my friends dad and my uncle are architecs and they do not get a low pay. but also not as high. but if you like what you are doing you can have your own business of designing and get more money. You can have your own card website location etc....... and you will be doing something your interested in. GOOD LUCK! : )
Try civil engineering instead. You only need a bachelors (4 year), + 4 years on the job experience, and salary in Ontario Canada averages $50 000 for recent grads in Engineering, and you'll be doing similar work.

Contemplating lower back surgery fusion. Need advice help!?

2010-04-30T06:24:00.001-07:00

Thanks to all for the replies. I am reading the replies and really putting some though for my surgery. I meet with my surgeon on June 9. I soo scared and I am also in pain

please, keep on sending replies I would like to hear from all.

Thanks again, nice people on this board.Contemplating lower back surgery fusion. Need advice help!?
I've had a few fusion operations. It's normal to be scared. I know I was.

Trust your doctor. They are the best and only one you want to listen to. That's why they make the big bucks!!

The day you check in they will start helping you feel comfortable and help you start to relax. It really will be over before you know it. If you are extra nervous let them know,, if you have any questions, ask them. Surgery staff have always been great to me.

Since you are going to have some time off here are a few links to sites that will come in handy for you. Good luck with the operation. I hope you recover quickly.

http://www.spine-health.com/

http://www.uclahealth.org/body.cfm?xyzpd鈥?/a>

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/鈥?/a>

The last two you may want to check out before the surgery. That way you have a good idea what to expect and will understand what is going to happen. I know I looked into it a lot before my second operation and I felt far more comfortable knowing what was going to happen.

When you get out if you want some more links that have helped me just e-mail me. Good luck

Orthopedic docs and their nurses are my hero's. They saved my life. Thumbs up!!Contemplating lower back surgery fusion. Need advice help!?
I would like to know a little more info. What level(s) does the doctor want to fuse? What is your diagnosis? What have you had done already? What did your MRI say? What did your X-rays look like? What kind of pain do you have, where is it? Does it go down your leg(s) if so how far? Have you lost any bowel or bladder control? Have you exhausted all conservative treatment (steroid injections, Physical therapy, Anti-inflammatories and Muscle relaxants)? Feel free to email me rockandon@yahoo.com. (I have not personally had surgery, but see a lot of them)

Sexual abuse, I need some help/advice or something?

2010-04-30T06:24:00.000-07:00

When I was sexually abused, the guy who did it, his cousin sat there %26amp; watched the full thing.. I know its wrong, *if* I went to the police, would anything happen about the guy who watched even if he didn't do anything?.. Its just been running through my head..Sexual abuse, I need some help/advice or something?
Yes. Yes they will. He'll probably be tried as an accessory and or accomplice.Sexual abuse, I need some help/advice or something?
I disagree that anything could happen to the witness based on what you've said, not that he's much of a nice person. If he urged on or helped in any way then yes, but based on the above, no! I hope you find justice. Sorry this happened.
Sorry this happened to you.

';*if* I went to the police, would anything happen about the guy who watched even if he didn't do anything?.. '; Probably not, unless it can be proven that the cousin participated in some way or help the main perpetrator/abuser, say, in acting as a lookout, for example.

This is a hard situation to call, because I cannot predict how it will go. That is, going to the police could work like it's supposed to. The abuser is charged and convicted and punished. Or it might backfire, with people suspecting you made it up. Ladies who have been raped, some of them, not all, have gone through horrible experiences and wound up being considered the ';bad guy.';

If it was just the three of you there, it's your word against theirs. And very likely they will deny it ever occurred. Question, how will you prove it? The police will wonder, how will thay prove it?

Now this sounds like I'm saying better not go to the police. I'm NOT.

What I'm advising is, be careful. Consider carefully what you want to achieve. I suggest that this is the most important thing, how you are adjusting psychologically to the experience and the memory of it, your feelings. What you should be concerned about, primarily, is your future healthy sexual life, and whether or not this experience will be an obstacle to that. So if you feel a need, get some counseling (in amny situations the counselor will report the abuse, better her than you!).

On the other hand, if the most important thing to you is that the guy who did this is punished, if you feel you need to do what you can to discourage him from doing this to someone else, if you feel you can handle the suspicious of others, the police, your school, your parents even, maybe (who suspect you invited the abuse; crazy I know, but it happens), then go for it. Just make sure it is that important to you, because that pathway can be rough.

So I'm saying take care of you, first. You can report it if you decide to. If you don't report it, that's fine. If you think you might want to report it in the future, write down what happened, all significant details, including exact place, date and time. And keep that. If the jerk comes around to harass you, you can always tell him, ';By the way, so far I have held of reporting what you did to the police, but I do have it written down in a safe place, so back off or I will.';
yeah he was sick in the head but he would also be a good witness.
Hi Beautiful,

It is not a crime under the law in Victoria, Australia to watch a crime being committed. However, if the person watching the crime, or in this case a sexual assault drove the person there knowing what might happen, or stopped someone entering the room or leaving the room or encouraged the rapist they could be charged with being an accessory to the crime.

It might be worth while talking to a police officer. If you live in Victoria, Australia you could ask for a member from one of the

Sexual Offences and Child Abuse Units (SOCA). They are specially trained and very helpful. You do not have to go ahead with charges but might find it useful to get the Police to let you know what they might do in this situation.

See the link below for your nearest office or you could email them.

pores

Exercising inside my home. (PLEASE HELP/advice/ideas needed)?

2010-04-30T06:23:00.003-07:00

How do I atleast lose about 200ish calories without a gym inside my house. I have no excersise mchine. Any ideas? How many clories does jumping jacks burn? Or situps?Exercising inside my home. (PLEASE HELP/advice/ideas needed)?
Well, I chase my cat around the house when she doesn't want her bath because she runs from me.. That burns a few. Lol.

Anyways, getting serious. Jumping jacks seem to work pretty well, or rent one of those exercising/dance DVDs. They're fun and if you do at least 20 minutes a day on them then they seem to work pretty well. =)Exercising inside my home. (PLEASE HELP/advice/ideas needed)?
the best way to work out and lose calories in your home is through any method of calisthenics.. basically this is conditioning of your body.

doing push ups, sit ups, dips (using two chairs and putting your legs on them horizontally then pushing down on your arms to work your triceps) are the main part of my work out. the best part is these things don't require a gym! people spend alot of money on bowflexes and etc, but they don't realize that these machines do the same thing as regular conditioning.

go search on google for better tips and methods of conditioning because there are various methods you can do to tone different parts of your body.

Period Question I need some advice please help

2010-04-30T06:23:00.002-07:00

Okay so this morning I got my period for the month. (im irregular) so im going away on tuesday to new jersey. my aunt has a pool and we go swimming. we wont go swimming until wednesday but still. normally my periods last about 6-8 days. my last one was 6 days. do you think my period will be light by wednesday. i reallly dont want to ask or use tampons. i dont want it to ruin my vacation either. is there anyway to make it lighter or shorter for vacation besides the pill. im only 13. PLEASE ANSWER I need help

Period Question I need some advice please help
as long as ur in water I think ur period will be fine like for sum reason when ur in the shower or whatever it stops so i think you will be fine Period Question I need some advice please help
I would bring tampons, it will be ok. Just follow the instructions on the box and get something like Playtex Easy Glide or Tampax Pearl. They work great and are really good for beginners. Don't be afraid to ask your Mom or someone you trust to get you some, they have been there too.
Im going to hilton head on the 15th and my period starts the 14th and im going to be fine just like you... put a tampon in take some midol and your good!
Omg samee here!

Im going on the 19th %26amp; it starts on the 16th :(

Im sorry i dunno what to do either but if i find out i will write bk ;D

I need good advice!help plz?

2010-04-30T06:23:00.001-07:00

i am planning on breaking up with my b/f becaause he has cheated on me and he lied about it. how can i break up with him and still let him know that i still love him??help?!I need good advice!help plz?
why should it matter if he knows you love him or not, HE CHEATED ON YOU GIRL! but anyways when you break up with him just tell him that you love him but you cant be with a cheater it hurt you too much. OR if you wanna make him feel pain then just act like you dont care about what he did and you dont need him anyways!I need good advice!help plz?
Just break up with him! Why do you want him to know that you still love him, he cheated!!! He's a jerk, Don't give him that satisfaction!!! Good Luck!!
Tell him that he means the world to you and you would do anything for him.Then tell him that a relationship with lies is not a good relationship and it is just not going to work out. He should listen and respect you.
If he has cheated on, and lied to you then you shouldn't feel bad about breaking up with him. Yes it will be hard, and i'm sure he already knows how much you love and care about him. You may never fall out of love with him. But you have to move on, and don't ever cry because it's over, smile because it happend.

Just tell him, that you ';loved'; (in past tense) him a lot, but it's time for you to move on and go your separate ways.
well the key is not to get mad and attack him...just let him that you feel disrespected and you deserve more....whether that be alone or with someone who does respect you enough to stay monogamus %26lt;--(spell?), and that you do love him and will always have love for him but you cant seem to accept the fact that he played you out and wasnt man enough just to admit it....you need a stronger relationship and its not going to happen being with someone who does those things.....good luck!
tell him clearly. ';';I've been loving you so dearly and you cheated on me, how could you? how could you? am gonna dump you but my heart is crying, you've put me in a difficult situation, it hurts';';

Or just dump him and don't tell him anything, coz if he couldn't understand your love then, how will he understand it now?? If he didn't care about you then and cheated on you without thinking what would be your plight, why will he care now?? If you're showing your love for him and dumping him then you're fooling yourself. By doing this, you're expecting him to see your love and he'll come back to you. But NO. It'd be foolishness.

Hope you take the right decision. Bye. Take care
Why would it matter? He obviously does not love you if he is willing to cheat on you. Express how much his actions hurt you but don't inflate his ego by telling him you love him.
You don't have to play games with your life or his. Dump this loser and set your standards higher.

Why do you say you still love this moron. What is there to love? He cheated on you. He showed you HE DOES NOT CARE ABOUT YOU. Why don't you care about yourself??????
dunmo
Why do you love someone who disrespects you? Just tell him that cheating isn't acceptable and you're outta there.

Don't waste a perfectly groovy emotion like love, on someone who apparently doesn't love you.
Very simple, when you dump him, ';I love you, but I can't trust you';. Love and trust make up a relationship.
Just tell him that you have decided to end the relationship.
just be honest with him. tell him why you're breaking up with him and you still love him but can't trust him. tell him how much he hurt you. you deserve better. good luck
idk, who cares, if your breaking up with him to train him thats just messed up grow up its not the movies
why tell him you still love him? it obviously didnt matter that you loved him when he cheated on you.

I become addicted to online game, any advice? help!!!!?

2010-04-30T06:23:00.000-07:00

these days I playing online games day and night, what can I do to deal with game addiction, I appreciate any advice of your.I become addicted to online game, any advice? help!!!!?
i hope it isnt runescape all boys i know play that. lol.

but try doing other things like goin outside,reading(ew), listening to music, hang out with friends or even watching tv.

take ur mind off of it no matter how much it hurts.

get involve in sum sorta sport.I become addicted to online game, any advice? help!!!!?
you either walk comepletely away from it or you let it consume you until you burn out on it.

38 weeks pregnant and feels guilty not wanting to have sex with partner? Any help/advice?

2010-04-30T06:22:00.002-07:00

dont worry about it, my partner and I didnt have sex after my 7th month, I was just never in the mood. and now that the baby is here, we have to wait 6 weeks, according to the doc38 weeks pregnant and feels guilty not wanting to have sex with partner? Any help/advice?
dont feel bad.. i feel the same way im 31 weeks and sometimes i dont want to either.. its just our hormones.... just tell him why.. maybe he'll understand that it might not be comfy for you or your tierd... and hopefully he understand..

good luck and congrats on the baby.....38 weeks pregnant and feels guilty not wanting to have sex with partner? Any help/advice?
Don't feel guilty! It's totally ok and normal, and your desire will return shortly after the baby's born. Do other intimate things instead, making out, cuddling, backrubs, oral if you feel like it (i was nauseous the whole time so that didn't work for me) , and explain to your partner that it's a combo of your hormones, emotions, physical comfort, etc., and not anything he did. I hope he is understanding and doesn't try to pressure you! Good luck!
At this point, alot of us don't want sex. Not only are you huge, but it can take serious acrobatics to find a comfy position. There are other things you can do that don't involve sex. Do those for now. For 6 weeks after birth you'll not be able to have sex so you need to explore alternate methods of satisfying you both. I'm not going into detail because of kids on this site.
Sex is the last thing on your mind-I know. But I'm so miserable and ready,,,so I started reading up on ways to help bring labor along...and the main 3 things everyone is telling me is walking, sex, and nipple stimulation. And since I know sex is going to be out of the question for at least 6 weeks after I have the baby...I'm starting to think maybe I ought to at least try to have some fun as impossible as it sounds. So my husband and I have been trying the sex and nipple stimulation thing. But I tell him he just has to take it slow and be very gentle. The semen is actually what causes the cervix to thin-not sex. So we have alot of foreplay,,,and after a while-it actually feels really good and relaxes me. So maybe just have your partner give you a message and relax you,,,you need something to jumpstart your hormones. The nipple stimulation is what did it for me. It was very relaxing,,,and having him message me,,,totally put me in the mood. Then once i've had an orgasm...I let him gently slide in. We actually both enjoy it because it's more of a slower paced thing and gives us a chance to really connect. He loves it. Sex,,,full blown-would not work for me right now. I feel like a cow as is,,,and everything is just different right now. It's very tight and uncomfortable. That is why having him relax you will help,,,and to be very slow and gentle. Good luck to you!
Don't feel guilty, it's normal...I've felt bad too...but it's okay, it's normal during pregnancy and it seems he understands it eventhough he is desperate to have sex with me. I do other things for him to keep him happy...I do oral for him and he likes it. :) Try that...
don't feel guilty. just do alot of cuddling and alone time while you can
Don't feel guilty - it is hard and sometimes painful to have sex during pregnancy. Sometimes it is hard not to think about the baby in there. Then again - some women say that the best sex they have had is during pregnancy! Maybe there are other things you can do to satisfy each other.

Hold out - you will be able to have sex again 6 weeks after the baby is born.
There is no need to feel guilty. It's hard to be in the mood when you are about to have a baby. Just remember it will all be over soon and you will have your body back.
I'm there with you.

You hear about these women who are pregnant and their hormones are crazy and they want sex constantly.

Not me! When I am pregnant I want to avoid sex like the plague! I do have mercy sex with my husband (he has NO clue that's what it is) because I feel absolutely terrible for him.

I want to, ';want'; too!

I know after the baby comes things will get back to normal, but until then I have mercy sex.
Don't feel guilty! Just remember that's how you got that way! There will be plenty of opportunities to do that later :-) Make sure you get your rest because there won't be much of that soon.

Best Wishes
I struggle with this too. It's better to just explain to him that it's the last thing you want to be doing that pregnant...When I try to do it for my guy, I end up getting mad at him and it's so much easier to just be honest.

I need some advice/help with this...?

2010-04-30T06:22:00.001-07:00

Okay so over the summer two of my friends that I usually hung out with at school dumped me so that they could be more popular. They were planning to screw my life over and turn people against me. I need some advice for ways to make them jealous and wish that they hadn't dumped me. Any ideas?I need some advice/help with this...?
you know its funny because the same thing happened to me i went away for the summer and one of my ';friends'; told all my other friends a bunch of lies about me and they all turned against me. but when i came back i was determined to **** her up bad sorry for my language so yeah i came back and told a secret she told me along time ago about her being gay, now everyone hates her and i'm the queen ***** again as always, you can never take a true ***** down. you've got to be that *****, find a new group of friends or hang out with guys that always makes girls jealous. I need some advice/help with this...?
Move and and build your own life. Don't step down to their level and try to make them jealous and try to runt their life like they did to you. People who know you will know you are a good person and will realize that you are better then the other 2. But if you step down to the low level of the other 2, people may disrespect you also.
I think you shouldn't even bother with that. They were not friends. You will outshine them all in due time.
you in middle school? Sounds like so little kid drama

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First year waterpolo player needs help and any advice.?

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how do i improve my waterpolo skills?

or what excercises can i do?

drills?

anything i want anything you can give me about improving my waterpolo skills.

thanks.First year waterpolo player needs help and any advice.?
hey water polo is great you could hit the pool and do alot of kicking for you need legs in water polo, another skill to imporve would be swimming head out of water, for you need to see everything so do laps with your head out of the water, and work on arm and leg muscle to if you want get a medicine ball and tread water with it above your head doing 30 secs on and off,

good luck

I need relationship advice... help?

2010-04-30T06:21:00.003-07:00

So i've been going out with this guy for 5 days, he asked me out and i had the BIGGEST crush on him. Now we can't seem to loosen up around eachother and i really want to feel comfortable with him. I think he's nice, funny, gentle, cute, and so much more.

also, he's really skinny and tall.

i like him sooo much.

how can i break the ice and feel more comfortable with him? and make him feel more comfortable with me?I need relationship advice... help?
Just start talking to him more, act how you would around your friends and you will eventually loosen up.I need relationship advice... help?
It's only been five days, calm down; but if you really want to help it along, have some sort of routine - like always asking how his day is (That's kind of a lame one) or always meeting at a certain spot everyday.

Routines have a calming effect for most human beings (oh how mundane)

But seriously, 5 days is nothing. More then likely you loosen up with more time.
just keep dating, it's been less then a week, it usually take at least over a week or two to know each other enough to loosen up, cause you just starting to date him 5 days ago, so you still need to learn about each other to release that tension.
HUM maby you should try and ...... tlak to him about the way he acting if hes being awarked'; or not opeing up i mean everyone is ... in the begining ....just give some time im sure it will sink in if that doesnt work be blunt and upfront
yup just be yourself and have fun

Help I need job advice about follow ups?

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I just applied for a job yesterday by fax. The company did not leave there contact information to follow up. I am really interested in the job can I fax my resume again or would that be annoying to the employer..... Please advise...

ThanksHelp I need job advice about follow ups?
Wait 3 or 4 days and compose another letter to send as a cover to your references. State in this letter how excited you are about the company and that you will call back in a couple days to make sure they have your info.

Please don't re-send your resume. I cannot tell you how irritating it is to receive the same resume over and over again. I wouldn't even call people that sent their resume over and over. If someone is that irritating before you hire them, they would be hell after the hire too.

Good luckHelp I need job advice about follow ups?
I would wait a week or so and then fax again, with a new cover letter explaining your interest in this job/position and why. Most good companies do not look down on prospective job candidates who have persistence, so it can't hurt your chances. If you still get no response, that may be their way of telling you they're not interested. You can also try to google them and find alternate means of contacting them.
i would wait a little longer than 1 day. that's a bit overkill.

i would look the company's info up online and try to find a phone number to call and verify that your resume was received. that way you will look more interested and resourceful.

if you can't get a phone number at all, then wait another day or two and re-fax with a cover letter and a not asking to please be called to be sure your fax was received.

take care
I would wait it out one week. Most likely they have your resume. If they see it again the next day, they may become discouraged. So if you sent it out Wed., send it to them again next Tues. or Wed. if you dont hear back from them.

Aquarius ladies. Or guys who dated aquarius women. I need advice/help..?

2010-04-30T06:21:00.001-07:00

I've been talking with and seeing an a few aquarius girls lately. They seem to be quite intelligent. Not naive people. Mysterious too. One thing that bothers me is the long periods of non-communication. They can be very private people. Definitely independant. My question is when or at what point in their life do they decide to settle down with someone.

I dated an aquarius girl recently.

And me I'm a boy in waiting. :pAquarius ladies. Or guys who dated aquarius women. I need advice/help..?
I'm an aquarius.

All that's totally typical.

Not much different for aquarius men either.. my grandpa had the same birthday as me.. he hardly ever talked.

Private? Yes.. there's some things no one will ever know.

I got married when I was 32. Woulda probably done it a few years earlier if my Cancer husband wasn't such a crab.Aquarius ladies. Or guys who dated aquarius women. I need advice/help..?
you do realize that being born in a certain month means absolutely NOTHING about who you are. personalities are all in nature and nurture not birthdates!!
I am an aquarius woman, but you can't go by what someone's horoscope is to determine how soon they will want to settle down. That is just plain silly. People are individuals and everyone is different. When I was still in highschool i said that I wouldn't get married until I was 25 (even though all my friends were betting I would be the first to get married). I got married in July and turned 25 in January...but that doesn' mean that ALL Aquarius woman choose to wait until this age to get married.

Quick advice on this girl it will be fast help?

2010-04-30T06:21:00.000-07:00

I met a girl i just hadn't got the chance to hang with her since i left to NY for a business trip. I just got back home 2 days ago, She just txt me saying when em i coming back?, and i said i been here, She then txt me saying ';oooo what since when';?.....................

Should i ignore this txt????.... i read that if you ignore girls txt they will want you even more.Quick advice on this girl it will be fast help?
So... If some one tells u that trowing ur self from a 10 story building will make the coolest guy... will u do it?

Do ur best to be honest with ur self and this girl, and follow you conscienceQuick advice on this girl it will be fast help?
How old are you? Have you been under a rock, Txt back or better yet call her and talk to her, when you txt you could be watching t.v getting a b.j. from a hooker etc, etc. Calling her show that she has your full attention.
no if you ignore a girls text...it will be just the opposite. she will think that your not interested in her. But the quicker you reply...that will show her that she has your full attention
don't do that you dork! thta's not true banana- brain! text her back! where do you get your advice from, a coconut?!
dont ignore her

thats just mean..

isn't it rude,too??

just txt her back
OMG i've been having this guy ingore my text for the last week and its driving me crazy..driving me away from him..YOU NEED TO TEXT HER BACK it will hurt her if you dont and she will think you are not interested
hahah. that's true. but if you find a way to turn her off, she'll go away.x)

Help i need advice about this problem i got read?

2010-04-30T06:20:00.003-07:00

Next month i'll be starting school as a new student here in CA. I'm 19 years old. I also just bought a Lamborghini Gallardo which i will be taking to school, and if your wondering what i do for a living i Rap add me in Myspace.

Do you guys think i'll get known pretty damn quick in school?

And do you think i'll be getting lots of very freaky girls?

(I don't want a gf)Help i need advice about this problem i got read?
wow u have a lambragini... !! just dont show off about it and you will be finee !! :L just be nicee to all the lassies they will be nice to youu and make suree they know your not interested in having a relationship .Help i need advice about this problem i got read?
I think you need to tone yourself down a bit, if you want friends instead of enemies. It's never okay to be ';full'; of yourself. Show a little modesty. Good luck with your new school.
I would think but ask your self is it you they want to know or the personification you project?
Yes i do think that people will know you, and yes to the freaky girls
you will get a rep pretty quick but girls will like your car not you sorry(:

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Vegetarianism; i need some help/advice?

2010-04-30T06:20:00.002-07:00

honestly, which would be a better diet?

i've been a vegetarian for a year

apparently, it's a better diet than being an omnivore;

however, i've become anemic (sp?)

and even though my acne cleared, my eyes are brighter and my skin practacally glows,

i'm shorter, i'm getting alergic reactions to things i wasn't ever allergic to before, and i'm all of a sudden studdering

i can't change my vegetarianism- i've been one for a YEAR and thats hard to just- stop doing, so help me?Vegetarianism; i need some help/advice?
The anemia means you aren't getting enough iron. Eat more potatoes, spinach, etc. It wouldn't hurt to take an iron supplement.

As for getting shorter (???) and stuttering and the allergies... I do not think that is related. You should see a doctor about that stuff.Vegetarianism; i need some help/advice?
The Vegetarian Resource Group (www.vrg.org) has a list of iron-rich foods. But beans/pulses and leafy greens are among them. Also make sure you eat lots of vitamin C-rich foods to help with iron absorption. I read somewhere that because veg*ans get so much vitamin C, it's probably why there's not a huge incidence of anemia among veg*ans. If you find dark green leafies too bitter, mix them in with something. At a cooking demo I went to recently, they sauted kale and poured pasta sauce over it, warmed that up and served it with whole wheat penne. It was really GOOD.
Yes, this is not related to vegetarianism. You may just not be eating healthfully. If you are starving yourself or not getting the right nutrients maybe your neurological system is messed up. Go see a doctor and a dietitian.
the studdering could be neurological due to lack of essential vitamins...definitely go and see a dietician and pcp.

see the link...
super easy to fix the iron situation: eat eggplant that has so much iron in it!

You can just slice the eggplant and grill it and put it in snadwaiches with other grilled veggies.

for recipes for eggplant go to

http://www.vegetariantimes.com
eat foods high in iron such as spinach and any other green leafy vegetables, take iron supplements, drink soy milk, eggs, mushrooms, red beans, etc.

Help. I need advice for my trip to Brazil in July?

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I wanted to know what the money situation is like. I am wondering if It's easier to use cash or a credit card. I have a mastercard and a Visa

I will be visiting Rio, Salvador, Manaus, and Iguassu Falls. Which of these places accept which type of payment?

In other words, when I'm in each of these cities whats the best method of payment that I should use?Help. I need advice for my trip to Brazil in July?
I used my ATM/Debit card in Rio and Salvador, haven't been to the other two places. My guess is you'll be able to widely use your credit card in any part of brazil that gets a lot of tourist traffic. Manaus may be iffy, Iguassu Falls will probably be fine.Help. I need advice for my trip to Brazil in July?
Credit card is OK. For hotels, shopping (in malls), rental cars no problem. I wouldn't use it in a restaurant. Anyway if someone scams your credit card (very common BTW) you can dispute it and you will win. You might want to call the CC company and tell them you are going to Brazil. Also take a picture of the front and back and put it in your yahoo mail account in case you need to report them stolen/call them/etc...

Don't even think of using a debit card that draws your purchases from your bank account.

ATM machines are everywhere but be careful because some (Banco do Brasil) only have $100R limit on the weekends ($50).

Boyfriend advice??? help my dad is being uncivilised?

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hi i recently got a boyfriend... and well my dad thinks i am WAY to young but i think its just cause im his little girl i mean im 15 yrs old and the guy im seeing is really nice but my dad wont give him a chance what should i do???Boyfriend advice??? help my dad is being uncivilised?
I'm in your situation..sort of.

I grew up in a very racist home and my boyfriend is black. Well my parents highly disaprove. If the boy you like cares about you he will wait for times when you can see him, like maybe you can see him sometime at the mall or somewhere your parents wouldn't notice if you feel you MUST see him.

But, you could try to invite him over to your house and have your parents meet him.. nd have him keep coming over. Make him prove himself.Boyfriend advice??? help my dad is being uncivilised?
How old is your boyfriend. If he is 18 and older than your dad is right.
ok. well just write down how you feel, parents might not listen but they can read.

SHOW him he's a good guy :) all dads are like that at first..he'll get used to it.
You don't need your dad's approval. Just keep your relationship quiet. Your dad isn't going to give him a chance to prove himself, you said it yourself. So you're not going to get his approval.

At 11 my daughter is upset about growing up. Any advice on how to help her transition a little more happily?

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We are open and honest about puberty. She knows what to expect. She cries, whines about changes she is experiencing now. She says, ';I don't want to go up, its not fair!'; ';It's digusting!';.At 11 my daughter is upset about growing up. Any advice on how to help her transition a little more happily?
My cousin had this exact problem, unfortunately, her parents were not as concerned as you and left her to be looked after by others.

I think it's fair that you are worried, and I think it's good that you are clear with your daughter about puberty.

There are books that you can buy/order to help young girls cope with puberty and growing up

e.g. http://www.amazon.com/Deal-Whole-Approac…

I think that explaining to your daughter that puberty has just as many good things as bad

%26amp; tell her that everyone is going through it, and that your daughter is growing up and will one day be like her Mum.

Hope I helped :)

Good luckAt 11 my daughter is upset about growing up. Any advice on how to help her transition a little more happily?
Uh, maybe you've been TOO descriptive about everything and as kids naturally do, she knows a little and is expecting the worst.

American Girl has some really fun books (not the ones that are part of their historical girls series) about growing up that speak to girls about real life things in real life talk on their level. Maybe something like that will help her know she's not alone. It also sounds like her comments are the words of somebody who is uncomfortable with or is embarrassed and that's just her way of ending the conversation. That does NOT mean she doesn't want the information, she's just experiencing overload. Give her books that you approve but that are on HER level. She can get good info and you can continue your ';training'; that way.

Another possibility is that at 11, she's probably not yet started her period and she's probably scared of what it will look and feel like, and how it might change her ability to DO normal every day things. I just found out one of my daughter's friends just quit the swim team (that she absolutely loved and did for years) because she has recently started and doesn't know how to handle it with her period. Lack of information.
Wow, you caught on. It happened to me at that exact age, my mom never really did anything though.

Get her a journal. It's a great tool, not one of the cheap plastic one's either. This is for a MATURE young lady, right? (winkwink) Let it fit her personality, the colour, the pattern (if any) the fabric (if you see her being someone not the fabric type, a cheap leather is SOOO awesome, really), and make sure it has a book mark attached. And a pen - don't go all out on the pen, it'll run out of ink, but it'k just a nice accessory to go with the journal. I'm calling it a journal because when she was younger she most likely called it a diary, since she's maturing it's only natural to call it a journal unless she otherwise dubs it.

This isn't for any other reason other than your daughter is maturing, and she isn't going to to tell you or anyone else eveything that's on her mind at all points in time. Even her own friends. She's growing, physically, mentally, and emotionally, and a lot of people today are mistaking that with kids acting out against parents or just being depressed. This way she can write down anything she wants, real or imaginary, and not feel ashamed about being a big girl or little one. that's the transition phase she won't know what to do with, even though you constantly remind her she can go to you with anything, she wont always, and that's just a part of growing up.

Good luck.
It is disgusting, but Im happy that she knows already, I started going through puberty at 9, and didn't know anything about it before hand, so I think that you are doing a good job so far.

I was the opposite when I was younger, I couldn't wait to grow up, now I wish that I was young again.

I would just remind her of all the things that she has to look forward to, that she has to grow up to be able to do.
Well, you may have gone into too much detail with 'the talk'. Give it a bit of time.

It is hard for a child to LOOK at an adult and actually think and realize that the parent or adult was a child once too.

Do you have lots of photos from when you were her age?

Show them to her, tell her about your times and life at 11 yrs old (even if you can't remember them all that clearly, just wing it and pull generalize memories from that time). Explain to her that some aspects of it can be well, disgusting, but the fact is that you went thru it first so you could have her as a baby! Draw upon your own experiences and share with her - you'll make a connection that you can use for communication later on in this mother-daughter relationship.

Don't dwell too much on the mechanics of it at this point (the monthly bleeding, etc). Dwell on the aspects of upcoming freedom and adulthood. When you grow up you can drive a car..that's freedom! You can date and travel and all that stuf that she can't do by herself now. You know, just go with your common sense.

You can skip the parts about drunken college parties and all that stuff right now. That may be more info than she can digest.
I went through that. still do actually for me it isn't so much i didn't like the changes, it was just the fact that ';hey, in four years I will be twenty years old'; it's kind of scarry, and even though the liberty is enticing, we've been taken care of our entire life, and it now sooner than later that we will be leaving all that behind. I know this doesn't give an answer, but it may give you some insite into her mind.

P%26gt;S. telling her it's okay to still like kid things is a GREAT idea! I'm allways happy to know that even when I move out I can hang onto starwars anime and stufed animals
Kids seem to have a lot more peer pressure at a much younger age nowdays and if you read some of the questions in adolecents on this board you will see why.

I do not blame her for wanting to stay a child, it is safe, Mom and Dad are in charge and you don't have to deal with all these weird feelings and people, your peers are pressing you to move into territory you aren't ready for. They tease you and call you a baby because you don't want to have a boyfriend and are not remotely interested in sex.

Check out her school, her friends at school, talk with her teachers and see what her enviroment is. Enroll her in a kids club, girl scouts, 4H, something where she can relax a bit and be a kid.
Well tell her it's a fact of life. We grow up, and we get older. Tell her the perks of growing up. When she turns 16, she gets to drive, when she turns 18 she can buy a lottery ticket. When she turns 21, she can buy a drink. Also, all the perks of having a job, and being able to buy things. And perks of puberty, you become a woman and one day she can have children of her own. ;D Hope this helps.
this is an awesome question to which i don't have the answer but i look forward to reading some insightful and intelligent answers, hopefully...

perhaps you can let her know how beautiful it is to become a woman and all the power that comes with it! the ability to create life for example.

ps- huge props to the miley cyrus idea, if not miley, fill in the blank ...
Tell her the good things about growing up. ex. ';Growing up means staying up late!'; And explain to her she can't really stop from growing up. Tell her it will just come and go and that soon she'll get used to it. Possitive things about growing up can really help her and make her well not fell as bad. Growing older is experiencing new things and getting new advantages!☺
I went through the same thing around that age, the only cure I found was time and girls. . .or in this case boys.. . which will probably upset her more than growing up.

I guess the best thing is to let her cling some of her childhood for as long as she wants, I'm 37 and I still love cartoons, Star Wars and action figures.
Tell her everyone has to eventually and that she has a long time to be a child still! Share with her your stories about going through puberty, growing up, ect. Let her know, Yeah they suck but trust me they get better, and you get used to them. But most of all tell her ';Your still a little kid! And you should enjoy it to the fullest!';

Don't let her grow up too fast.

Good luck to you and yours.
Awww, I totally remember feeling that way. It's something we all have to go through, some are just more resistant than others. I am 26, and STILL wish I was a kid sometimes:). Just make sure to always be open for her to talk with, be non-judgemental..and spend as much time with her as you can. Tell her some of the GREAT things about growing up!
I'm 12 and used to feel the same way!

I still don't look forward to secondary school, lol!

Tell her that as an adult, she'll have everything she had now and SO much more. the gift of being able to give life, pets of

her own, a job, a driving license, more time with her friends etc. Her hormones are raging. Think of what you were like at that age. Maybe she has a friend to talk to who feels the same way? We'd all love to stay a child forever, but it WON'T HAPPEN! Maybe tell her the perks of growing up,like someone said, a pro's and con's sheet would be great!

Tell her I send my love! Good luck to both of you!

XXX
yeahhhh, i said that too to my mom when i was that age.

and i actully felt totally opposite.

its because she's embarassed that you'll think she's a weirdo for liking ';becoming a woman';.

and DON'T say ';becoming a woman';. it's really uncomfortable.

but dont worry, by the time she is 13-14, she'll relax.
Yes, this is normal. Kids are just not ready to grow up, and don't know what will happen. Once they begin to realize things, they can sometimes get scared. Just explain to her that she is going through a normal stage of life, and that you are open with her if she wants to tell u anything.
ahaa.

well i was just thinking about myself growing up too fast.

like im fourteen i got my period a couple months ago i got boobs when i was 11. like its hard. sometimes i think life is passing right before my eyes but its kinda a good thing like getting my drivers license and stuff like that. just remind her that everyone grows up and that she will have you and her family and her friends there for her when she needs help.
okay, so the first 3-4 responses are childish, but the very first response was is true- from a girls' point of view- i honestly didn't puberty (i hated it) but i learned that puberty is a part of life- to help your daughter, give her time, she should learn to accept reality.
Tell her, ';Do you want to be a baby your whole life?'; because puberty is changing from baby to teen.

I'm 11, in 6th grade. I had typed a whole two paragraph on how to deal with this, but I accidentally pressed ';Cancel';.

But I hope you can help your daughter.
Maybe it has to do with the way you are explaining growing up to her. Are you making it sound scary or exciting? Try to explain why it is exciting...including additional benefits she will get as she gets older (such as bigger allowance, more free time with friends, etc.)
well tell her no matter how old she grows she's still gonna be herself... i mean she'll still do the things she loves.. like maybe watching cartoon or whatever .. i mean im 17 and i still watch cartoons and play silly games lol ... growing older is just experiencing new things! (and a lot of other crap stuff too lol) tell her she'll be able 2 driiive.. go 2 uni.. all the stuff kids usually look forward to! =)
Tell her the great things Like driving and staying over with friends or going to movies by self and alot of other things like that. Then say you cant do those things without the others and let her see how much the good outweights the bad. Maybe even make a pros and cons sheet
honestly the best answer is to just drop the subject for now. you presented her with whats going to happen, and while she does not like it, there is no way of stopping it.

let her come to terms with growing up, she will find peace with it in time.
Well, I told my niece that if when you have your period you turn more beautiful. The period makes you more beautiful. Which is true. Women who don't have periods have drier skin and age more quickly. I told her even Miley Cyrus gets one.
She's just exaggerating

If she hangs around with other girls she'll realize...it's normal..

Just let her complain

Try to make it less of a big deal but if she continues...then okay.

Tell her the pros of becoming a woman...and that every girl goes through it.
i was looking forward to it, until it happened obviously. Basically you should give her support and tell her that its a part of life and to get anywhere you have to move on, spend time telling her about the teenage part of life
we all have to go through it and its better you just let her deal with it as it will make her a stronger person in the future, just tell her its not discusting its life and if she wants to have children when she's older then it has to happen
Um tell her that its sad Okay um telll her um to live the teen years before she grows up so if she crys tell her ur crying even when u have 9 years o be growned up if thats how you want to live yor teen years then do it.
you have 7 more years of childhood it may seem like not a lot of time but it is, tell her too look forward too the future. yay spring break. yay tv 2nite. yay summer break.
Tell her about all the fun stuff about growing up like when shes 16 she can get a drivers license and she can get a job and raise money for herself and all tht kind of stuff
Do nothing. Do absolutely nothing. Do abso-friggin-lutely nothing. I mean, just nothing at all. Not a friggin thing. Don't do anything. Not a thing at all.......

I run track. I run the 100 in 12.2 i was looking for any advice to help me get under 12.Any answers are welcom?

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Im running a little over 12 in the 100meter im looking for any things that you think would help me get under 12. ThanksI run track. I run the 100 in 12.2 i was looking for any advice to help me get under 12.Any answers are welcom?
Step 1Stretch. Not only is it important to stretch so that you do not get injured while you are working out, training or competing, but stretching can also make your muscles tougher and more resistant to pain and fatigue. In turn, this will help you go farther at top speed.

Step 2Do polymetric exercises. These exercises build stamina in your muscles while training them to operate at maximum intensity for long periods of time. Always do polymetric exercises on a giving surface so that you do not hurt your joints. You can do leaping lunges, in which you lunge forward on one leg, then jump and switch legs so that your other leg is forward when you come down, or knee tuck jumps, in which you jump up high and try to lift your knees as high as possible. Do these exercises in sets of 10 to start, then as you gain stamina until you can no longer regulate your breathing and start panting heavily.

Step 3Strengthen your lower legs. You can do this particular exercise at any time. Point your toes back toward your shins. Maintain that position for as long as you can before relaxing your leg, then repeating the exercise. This can also increase jump height and will help you develop endurance while maintaining speed.

Step 4Practice. As you train using these isolated steps, you also need to simply practice running, swimming, etc., as hard as possible for as long as possible. For example, if you are training for a 200 yard race, you should start trying to sprint for 225 yards or even 300 or 400 yards. This will be very hard at first. However, the more you do it in conjunction with these other training exercises, the farther you will be able to go.

Step 5Stay hydrated. One of the biggest problems that sprinters have is that their muscles and bodies get dehydrated from their intense bursts of speed and training techniques. Staying hydrated is vital to building your stamina and endurance.I run track. I run the 100 in 12.2 i was looking for any advice to help me get under 12.Any answers are welcom?
Work on your technique getting out of the blocks, this can often trim some critical time off a short race. Ask your coach if your running form is good or if he or she sees any improvements you can make. Other than that make sure you are hitting the weight room and doing lots of lower body work such as squats and power cleans.
Maybe your start is something you need to work on try different starting stances,

use a training partner contrary to what other people think i believe you train harder when someone else trains with you
Thats good. I usually get 12.5
talk to usain bolt i guess

I really need some advice. Can someone help me out?

2010-04-30T06:19:00.001-07:00

I'm thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend. I've been with her for almost 6 months. I still care about her just not as a girlfriend with her. I get the will to talk to other girls behind her back and I'm just not as happy as I used to be. The fact that she always says how much she loves me and saying things like I'm her ';everything';, makes it harder. I really don't want to hurt her I just don't know if I want to be in this relationship.I really need some advice. Can someone help me out?
just tell her what u said here: Tell her that your feelings for her are not as strong and you are un happy in the relationship. Tell her that u want to communicate this to her and not to cheat on her and keep the false relationship going and live a lie. It will hurt her but it is better than u going behind her back and cheat on her.I really need some advice. Can someone help me out?
It isn't a suprise that you don't feel this way anymore. The first 6 months of a relationship is called the ';Honeymoon period';. Basically, the first 6 months of the relationship is usually the most crush-like and passionate part of your relationship. It isn't unusual for relationships to break down after this amount of time, it usually is just a sign that this person may not be right for you. If you don't think she is, just sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Say that you loved every second of it, but you think it could be time to move on, and that you still care for her and want to be there for her. Or if you feel like you want to re-kindle the relationship, just do things couples do. Take her out to the movies, or offer to cook a romantic dinner for her. The best way to create the underlying bonds of the relationship is just to spend time with each other doing exciting things. Hope this helps.

pores

I have a small problem, and I need some help... Do you have any advice?

2010-04-30T06:19:00.000-07:00

I have several hangnails on four fingers, and no matter how hard I try I just can't seem to stop picking them. I know it's bad to do that, and I really want to stop, but I just can't. Do you have any advice to give so that I can stop picking them?I have a small problem, and I need some help... Do you have any advice?
I have a similar problem.

I'd try putting salt on the wounds so it'll hurt really bad, but maybe it'll make you stop.I have a small problem, and I need some help... Do you have any advice?
Cut them short and evenly as soon as one develops. You might try clear nail polish on them to seal the area away from your picking. Cut your fingernails really short so that you cannot grasp hangnails between them. Wear band aids on your picking or picked fingers, or on all of them. You may look funny but it will help your problem and give your fingers time to heal. If you also bite them there are products you can buy that make the area extremely distasteful so you no longer want to bite.

I'm not sure if this would work or not but you could try putting band aids over the finger nails when you are at home. It might help you stop and tell yourself not to before you start picking them. Just an idea though. Good luck!
Are you young? Because I did that when I was young and when I got older I just quit. I don't know why I quit, I just did. Wish I could tell you more but I just don't know.
cut them

Fashion advice/help?

2010-04-30T06:18:00.002-07:00

Hey everybody, I have to take a super long flight and I'm leaving from my house around 3am in the morning. I don't want to do my hair or makeup because honestly, I'll barely be awake. I have a two hour layover however and was planning on straightening my hair then, my question is: does anybody know if I'm allowed to take either a flat iron or a curling iron on the plane as carry-on? The curling iron is metal and the flat iron is half plastic with metal in the middle.

Thanks!Fashion advice/help?
i've definately taken my chi in on a carryon! maybe i got lucky though?!!!Fashion advice/help?
I dont think your aloud because of the metal but when you get off the plane you can just do all your makeup then. Its okay you dont need the makeup because everyone is beatiful!
i doubt it...sry...

i think you should just do it in the morning before you get to the airport or just put it in a messy bun!

you will most likely fall asleep on the plane anyways so it shouldn't really matter!
ur definitely not allowed. i think
i think u r not allow. sorry

I need help deciding if I want to do engineering, any advice?

2010-04-30T06:18:00.001-07:00

I'm a Sophomore in college and have to declare a major next semester, I have recently been reading a lot about engineering. The top two types I would enjoy doing is either civil or architectural engineering. If anyone has any information or advice about these to types or ANY type of engineering I would absolutely love to hear and really appreciate it. THANKS!!I need help deciding if I want to do engineering, any advice?
The following two websites will be of some help to you. The first link is for high school students. But you might also find it useful. The second one is more appropriate for you. Click on each branch to learn more about it.

Good Luck.

I need help improving with sports to join a team any advice?

2010-04-30T06:18:00.000-07:00

Welll, I really want to join my schools volleyball team but I just cant be agressive. it's not my nature I'm god at volleyball and am an average weight and stuff but I'm just not an athlete I was never the star player and I'm always woried about taking the ball from someone if they were going to get it or hurting someone because I'm just a naturally really nice person...how to I get aggresive?I need help improving with sports to join a team any advice?
Think to yourself, ';I'm agressive.'; Volleyball is a sport that takes agressive people. The people you verse, always look at them like they're major enemies. The more agressive the better. Agression powers spikes, serves, and bumps.

- Work out a bit so you feel like your stronger.

- Get very serious at practices/games so all your focus is on the ball and you'll get agressive.I need help improving with sports to join a team any advice?
Yell MINE! Louder than them call them off, if you called first %26amp; louder, knock them over for the ball. If you called it, it's yours Not anybody else's. I'm an outside hitter %26amp; for hitting I am calling OUT OUT OUT while the ball is on it's way to the setters hands. Just call it. Dive for every ball within reach. Do your best
with time those feelings will fade. thats the way i felt when i first started. i suggest going to a summer camp that focuses on nothing for volleyball. thats how i started out and it helped tremendously.
to get agressive you need to say that's my ball and nobody else's!!! you always have to think that if the ball is near you that nodbody's going to get it if you don't get you just gave away a point people might think of you as a ball hog but trust me in the end they will thank you. i'm a setter and i take the ball..lol 'cause setter always gets second hit i know that's what i'm there to do....just think if i don't hit then i don't get to play anymore that way you'll want to hit and don't worry about the players beside you unless you just start taking the too much
Just go for it,

The other people will expect it, its what you have to do.

Call it as soon as you think its coming towards you,

If you hear someone call it, back off but be ready to help them.

If you both call it at the same time, go for it, its better than both of you backing off and letting them score.

And I'm sure the people on the team have ran right into someone before, everyone has! So don't worry !
u just gotta tell urself to go to the ball...for me when i see a ball i just charge after it and try to get it up %26lt;imma libero!!!%26gt; and if u want to make the team u have to be agressive...its just part of it...good luck...hope u make the team!!! :P
agressivness is a HUGE part of being a great volleyball player!

i used to not be agressive too, but then just acted like the other girls thought they were better than me and kept stealing the ball so i would look bad.

of course i had to prove them wrong, because i didn't want to be the one who looked bad, i wanted to look the best!

and now i'm the most agressive person on the team.

good luck.

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I need vet advice... Please help (My dog has a split paw)?

2010-04-30T06:17:00.003-07:00

I have a 4 1/2 year old mutt.

She has split her pad on her left back foot, about 2 weeks ago and I have tryed to rest it as much as i can but it still doesnt seem to be healing.

Do you have any advice as to how i treat it?

thank you for your advice.I need vet advice... Please help (My dog has a split paw)?
I was cleaning the paw of my dog today. I soaked it in medicated dog foam in warm water for ten minutes, then wrapped a bandage around it, put a sock on that, and let her sit on the lounge all day. If you bandage the foot they are less likely to walk on it because it is awkward. Being sedentary will allow it to heal.I need vet advice... Please help (My dog has a split paw)?
First off is it bleeding?

If so you need to make sure you keep it clean. Bandage it and take it to your vet. There is nothing you can do to fix the split but the vet would be able to glue it back together with surgical glue........and this is something that I DO NOT recommend you do for the simple fact that you can cause toxins to go into the dog if you do not have the right glue.

Basically there is nothing you can do for a split pad other than take it to the vet.

If you can not do that, then you need to make sure you keep it clean and bandage it at least once a day, try and make it as cushiony as you can using gauze pads that way your dog doesn't feel as much discomfort. The pad itself will not ever heal...it will do more like callous.

Hope this helps. If you have any more questions feel free to ask or you can go to the link below
Split or cut pads take a while to heal. You can have a vet look at it but I doubt he will be able to do much because the injury happened so long ago. Some mushers glue a ';blowout patch'; on injured pads. You might find out about them on sleddogcentral.com. I don't know much about them because my dogs have never had a serious enough injury to need one. Booties can help keep it clean.
Just keep it clean, you can wash it with warm water and a toothbrush and apply some betadine or something like that to it, if it is really bad it may need to be stitched.
wash it in warm water and bandage it then bring her to the vet or it could get worse
bathe the paw warm salty water bandage it and take her to the vet
i am soo sorry .
my mini foxy split his paw when he was just...we soaked it in salt water and put a bandage around it ; )

My friend is pregnant. She needs advice. What can i do to help her?

2010-04-30T06:17:00.002-07:00

The father knows. Her parents dont. She doesnt think she can afford an abortion. She is a month along. She cant have the baby and needs to continue with school.My friend is pregnant. She needs advice. What can i do to help her?
why can't she stay in school, have the baby and just give it up for adoption? There are many happy couples who would take the child and give it a good life.

Don't abort it. There are consequences to your actions, if you're adult enough to have sex, then you're adult enough to own up to your responsibilities if something goes wrong. If you (or your 'friend') don't want the kid, then do the right thing--have it and give it up for adoption.My friend is pregnant. She needs advice. What can i do to help her?
It is really hard to give advise to someone you don't know. There are a lot of variables here. What are her parents like? How old is she, what is the state of her health, an abortion is major ...and there are a lot of mental consequences that you may not be aware of right now.She should talk to her parents or possibly his parents or to a older family member. Financing this should be the least of her concerns at this time. Send her to Planned Parenthood in your area, I'm sure they can help.

Unfortunately, she will have to make what is a major decision, quicker than more insignificant things that will happen to her in the future. She is in my prayers.

Regards,

Honey
She should have thought about that BEFORE.

Of course she can have the baby and continue with school. She just doesn't want anyone to know that she got pregnant. Too bad.

Tell her ';abortion is NOT birth control.';
She needs to tell her parents. I know its frightening, but parents are really understanding once they get over the shock. I should know I had to tell mine and they were very understanding.
It is always best to come clean with parents. No matter what your friend decides the the father of the baby should help her. For any help whether for prenatal care or termination she can go to a clinic and/or plan parenthood for more information...
the best thing to do is to come clean with her parents i wouldn't count on the boy for financial help what happen to safe sex
There are so many things she can do in a situation. Abortion is just wrong, and should NEVER be an option unless her life is at risk. Iam guessing that she is afraid of what her parents willl say to her. She needs to know that there are so many people who just can't have children, and adoption is the best thing. Yes, being a parent to a baby is hard on an adult. It's even harder on a teenager. She needs to just tell her parents.
just console her and let her know that you will be there for her buy the baby clothes and stuff like that
is the baby mix i wil help her if i can l
I would advise that she talk to her parents immediately. It is extremly important that they know about it. They may be able to offer money for the abortion as well. Or they may let her keep the baby and give it up for adoption. See if the father has any money for an abortion as well.
TAKE HER TO A DOCTOR! LET THE DR. DETERMINE WHAT IS BEST FOR HER AN WHETHER OR NOT SHE CAN HAVE THE BABY!

ABORTION IS 'MURDER'!

WHAT HAPPENED TO BIRTH CONTROL?

IF SHE DOESN'T WANT THE CHILD SHE CAN PUT IT UP FOR ADOPTION AND SHE CAN ALWAYS GO BACK TO SCHOOL! YOU CAN NEVER BRING BACK A 'LIFE'!

pores

A teen needs help and valuable advice please im beggin u?

2010-04-30T06:17:00.001-07:00

A teen needs help and valuable advice please im beggin u?

well im 16 male and im studyin math chem bio history. i have failed my mocks and hav exams in january. i look at my textbook and nothing gets absorbed. last year i did really well but these alevels are different. i feel so lazy. i have no motivation and i feel like im gona fail ma exams. why is this happening. plz helpA teen needs help and valuable advice please im beggin u?
Every one goes through stages where things are easier for them than other's. There are times when you have to push yourself harder than others and this may be one of them. You have to remember how important school is and you might have to spend more time studying with no distractions. You also have to remind yourself where do you want to go when you finish school??Are you thinking about going to college?? How will these test help or hurt you there?? It might give you the incentive that you need to study.A teen needs help and valuable advice please im beggin u?
You are not at all lazy, you are experiancing a set back, we all have them at times. Are you trying to absorb to much at once? Try doing a little often but take some time out to relax and let the mind have a break to. By trying to cram it all in you will get a mental block. How about trying to add key things to what your revising. Highlight key words or numbers youll be surprised how this brings things back into the mind. Have you got a friend you could study with? this will give yoou motivation it also helps when talking to someone as they may have other ideas that could help you.
Well....It's because your growing up and you get easily distracted with things...All you have to do is empty your mind and just read it over and over until you finally get it

Help Advice Please!?

2010-04-30T06:17:00.000-07:00

OK Well I've been trying now for a while to sing from my diaphram and I'm still unable too. So any ideas of wat I should do? I have no idea. I;ve like tried everything! Cuz Well I also sing for English masses at my church,and I sometimes don't warm up like I should, and I know that is bad. So i have to get in the habit of doing that. I fgure its a must. And how should I warm up like what should i do! Thanks I could use all the advice I need. Thanks

PaulaHelp Advice Please!?
google singing advice and singling lessons. there is a lot of stuff put thereHelp Advice Please!?
ask Jesus for help.
YOu must always do a warm up. Do a breathing excercise, for a different count every time. Keep throat mositened. Practice in advance, maybe with a karaoke machine. ALlow yourself to dance, if you feel like it, but refrain if the program you're in doesn't allow it, when actually performing.
This is very simple. First if you think of a baby, the always use their diaphragms to breath. The best way for you to figure out how to do this is to lie flat on your back. No pillows under your head...put one under your Knees so that your back doesn't bend the wrong way. Then picture the top of your head being held by a string to the ceiling. This will open up your correct breathing methods. If you also picture filling a pillow of air, you will be able to sing much more. Don't worry about you looking fat...just breath with your stomach blowing out, and then in...Its that simple. If you have a hard time doing it...hold your nose shut and don't move your shoulders..then you will do it properly.
Go to this website and order their dvd. The camp which is 4 days long (and very affordable) is unbelievable. Watch the videos to see what happens during it to your voice. It is all about learning to sing correctly whether you are a professional or not. Check it out!

http://www.beautifulsinging.com/
lay down flat on your back, and sing. this forces you to sing from your diaphram!!!!

UC-Berkeley Students/alumni- I need your help/advice !!!!?

2010-04-30T06:16:00.003-07:00

So anyways, I am currently at a JC in Southern Ca, but plan on transferring to UC Berkeley ( or at least applying to do so) I am curious, as to what life was like as a Berkeley student. Now I realize that the purpose of going to school is to go to school, but I think socializing is a very important part of the college experience. With that in mind, I am curious as to student life in and around Berkeley. What is the dating scene like? Are there parties, clubs, bars ? Is it as politically charged as it once was ? What is the drug scene like ? Do people tend to come across as downt to earth or snobbish ? What is the surrounding area like ? Any noteworthy stores, shops, or restaurants ?

Thanks so much to anyone who replies - I really appreciate it.UC-Berkeley Students/alumni- I need your help/advice !!!!?
Because Berkeley is a public school, its students aren't as snobbish as they were at one of my schools (Stanford), but they do have attitude.

Berkeley is a much quieter town than it was when I was there in the early 'seventies. It shuts down at eleven, as always, and it isn't a party school by any means. Of course it is a world-class university and there is always something extra-curricular going on. Meeting people is never a problem.

There are many famous bookstores, restaurants, and such in the area around campus and down by the wharf in Emeryville. San Francisco is always visible just across the bay, but it seems like one never gets over there for one reason or another. People tend to stay in Berkeley's bubble. Unfortunately, the homeless have staked out the area around campus (Google ';People's Park';), and as a college girlfriend said to me on a recent trip back to Berkeley, ';It looks like Calcutta';. That's how the ';drug scene'; has devolved.

Berkeley students are not as radical as they once were, but they are still definitely left-leaning. Political correctness can be stifling at Berkeley, especially among the faculty, and being far-left is somewhat old fashioned now, from the typical student's point of view. The ';typical student'; at Berkeley, now, is probably an apolitical Asian majoring in engineering.

I'll always have a place in my heart for Berkeley, but I feel like I've moved on and Berkeley hasn't. Imagine the grey-haired woman wearing natural fabrics and no make-up, stepping out of the Volvo with a cotton bagful of organic groceries in the backseat, tapping away at an Apple in a non-chain juice shop. It has become that much of a self-parody. Maybe it's just me. Maybe it isn't.

Hi, im a telesales agent, I need help on how to get pass gatekeepers, If you are one, any advice?

2010-04-30T06:16:00.002-07:00

My job requires me to speak to a lot of decision makers, and of course, before I get to them, I have to get pass the gatekeepers, I know they are also doing their job, but I have to do mine too...I work for a fortune 500 company and we don't do scams!Hi, im a telesales agent, I need help on how to get pass gatekeepers, If you are one, any advice?
I once had a boss who told me to watch Wall Street, the 80's movie with Charlie Sheen.

The reason?

How he dealt with the gatekeeper at the office of his big fish (Gordon Gecko).

What I learned was, the Charlie Sheen character knew all there was to know about Gecko, which gave him some credibility, and that helped. But what he also did, and this was the bigger lesson, was get to know the gatekeeper. Know his/her likes and dislikes, know their birthdates and send a card. Know if they have kids. In short, treat them like your client, and you'll have a better chance at getting through.

Good luck.

Can anyone help me on my quest for some advice on Nigerian culture and relevant books?

2010-04-30T06:16:00.001-07:00

My husband, and therefore my in-laws, are Nigerians (Yorubans to be exact) and I want to learn as much as I can about their culture.

I've spent some time in Lagos and I, obviously, learn a lot from my husband, but I feel I'd also like to do some background reading. My husband can't always explain where the traditions come from or why some things are/aren't acceptable, and I think understanding the origins would help me understand the way things are generally.

The difference in cultures does, of course, bring up some problems from time to time, not so much with my husband and myself, as we know each other so well, but with myself and my husband's family. They have never left Nigeria and can't quite understand why I do and say the things I do sometimes. Is there any way I can help them see that I'm doing my best to respect their culture, but they have to appreciate that I can't just change who I am and what I believe because I'm now married to a Nigerian?Can anyone help me on my quest for some advice on Nigerian culture and relevant books?
Yoruba culture is vast and indepth, might take you the rest of your life to study and understand. I can only give you tips about what Yorubas cherish and no matter what you do they would never compromise. Forget the origin as most of them cannot tell you where certain things originated from

Traditionally they see a wife as a newcomer in the family so they bully you into respecting everyone from the husband`s family, even a new born baby is not to be addressed by first name (funny)

A man giving his wife helping hand in domestic chore is seen as been soft or henpecked, dont allow him to help you out when they are around.

Dont drink alcohol, wine or smoke while they are around (to them smoking or drinking is synonymous to truancy and low life)

Dont be sexy in your dressing or wear revealing clothes hence they call you a tramp.

Girl oh girl dont ever sit down leg open up (even mistakenly) hence they tell him to dump you cos you are no better than a hawker

They dont joke with hospitality ( entertain them with food and drinks anytime they come visiting )although they might not reciprocate this when you visit them, funny enough they expect you to do all the cooking alone.

They want you to start raising a family months after your marriage to their son and if you have not, start tonight hence you wont last.

You will make a sweet daughter in-law if you always buy them gifts.

The list is endless but these are the main things that cut across most Yoruba regions.

I hope you find these helpful, but if you want to study more tell your husband to get you a book called ';Asa ati Ise ile Yoruba';Can anyone help me on my quest for some advice on Nigerian culture and relevant books?
Ask my friend Segun, he's from Lagos, he's lovely :)
contact the university of ife. look for their homepage. and for god sake, Y Yoruba from all tribes? try an Ibo, and you will fell the difference.
try these links, hope they help:-)

http://uk.search.yahoo.com/search?search鈥?/a>

http://uk.search.yahoo.com/search?search鈥?/a>
I think mixed culture marriages /relationships will always throw up cultural problems even as I found out when I had a relationship with a German women even a country as European as Germany have different ways of doing things I used to have problems with her family I don,t know if you are both of Nigerian descent cos you don,t actually say! But if you could strike up some sort of dialogue with your hubby's family probably an older person maybe they could help to understand the culture differences.I found out the reason my exes family did not like me is because one of the family got killed toward the end of WW2 during the bombing of Dresden! doubt if this helps you very much but I have tried to help! I used to work with an Asian girl and we spoke about how difficult it was for her to have any type of relationship with anybody not of Asian descent! even other girls if they were not Asian found our conversations very interesting at the time I was totally ignorant to the extent of the problems she had so I can imagine that you maybe have similar issues
Try www.answers.com or search google or yahoo for the information you want.

You can't make people see what they don't want to see.
Go to your local library there should be plenty of information there to help you with what you are looking for, or just simply ask your partner or future in laws who better to explain everything about there culture to you.

Kicked out of the house, need job finding advice. Help?

2010-04-30T06:16:00.000-07:00

Been kicked out for a month now, applied for every little restaurant/store you can even imagine. I've posted my resume on Monster.com. No luck. Luckily I have a place to stay, but i need income to survive and repay my fiancee for everything he has done. So what can I do? Where is a good place to go find a job? Should I try an employment agency? Is there any other option?

Kicked out of the house, need job finding advice. Help?
Try staffing / temp agencies. They'll be able to set you up with something at least temporarily. Most of the jobs aren't even that horrible, and it sure beats starving.

Good luck.Kicked out of the house, need job finding advice. Help?
If you are having trouble finding full time employment i would try a temp agency. It is just the kinda of job when you are still looking for one. They tend to pay pretty well too.

pores

Please help with very basic modem advice:Can you run 2 computers from one modem?

2010-04-30T06:15:00.003-07:00

To have a computer running on internet upstairs when downstairs one is on broadband, what do i need? Curry's sold me a broadband socket extension kit, the chap DID say that was all I needed; however the kit doesn't have a plug that goes into the upstairs computer. Basically, do i need a second modem?

Please advise, my daughter and I are close to tears.Please help with very basic modem advice:Can you run 2 computers from one modem?
you only need 1 modem

you cont it to your router

cont router to both pcs

youll have to buy the cable

or get wirelessPlease help with very basic modem advice:Can you run 2 computers from one modem?
no
You need a router, and a usb adapter. Modem plugs into router, and then the router plugs into pc. Once router is set up. Use the usb adapter on the other computer set that up. So it will recieve internet from the router. Choose static ip and channel 1 , 5 , or 6. Best of luck

Audition advice? Help please?

2010-04-30T06:15:00.002-07:00

I am auditioning for a play tomorrow called ';Necessary Targets'; by Eve Ensler, its a play with 7 female roles and I was wondering what audition advice people had for me. How to stand out, and enhance my performance.

ALSO the director told the group that went today (I'm going tomorrow) not to act too ';showy'; or ';musical theatre like';, and I have done musical theatre a lot so help please?

Thanks!Audition advice? Help please?
i know eve ensler! i've been to a party at her house, once!! sorry... i get excited when people bring her up.

DATING ADVICE. HELP. do i ask her out yet?

2010-04-30T06:15:00.001-07:00

i met this girl on the 28th, last saturday. im goin to a completely casual dance and meeting her there this saturday the 14th. i wanna ask her out but i don't know if it's too soon to ask her. HELPDATING ADVICE. HELP. do i ask her out yet?
I think you should ask her out!!!!DATING ADVICE. HELP. do i ask her out yet?
go for it. the whole point of dating is to get to know the other person. maybe you will find out that you really like this girl or maybe you'll find out you might not like her as much as you thought you did. There is only one way to find out. See how you get along at the dance and then if everything goes well ask her. you have really nothing to lose, and no, its not too soon
first of all, you gota make sure she likes you the way u like her.. maybe she just wants to be BFF's for a while. you should get to know her. Ask her questions about her and her life. she what she likes and dislikes. then if you can, get her number and call her or maybe even text her... hope this helps !
do it but do it casually.you just met her so dont rush in too fast..make it a casul lets-hang-out-together thing..
Well maybe you should get to know her better. I mean she could be totally not what she seems to be. Feel it out for a little while. Get closer so nothing is ackward and then go for it. But that is a little to soon.

Hope I helped!!
I think you should casually mention the dance in conversation about your plans for the weekend. If she seems interested in going ask her.
Well, I think you should get to know her a little more, like another month. If you still feel about her that way, ask her out. You never know, she could be thinking the same thing. :)
it kinda is a bit too soon cause you only just met you should find out if she likes you as more than a friend before you ask her out since it might freak her out a little or ruin a future friendship
way to soon.

You met her once and already going to ask her out.

Too soon, You need to give it time to get to know each other better
just ask. its not like its gonna kill u or something. u may think its early, but if u ask and she says yaes, ur gonna b jumpin up and down most likely. just ask her.
it depends on how much you know each other. i asked a girl out after a week and week did not work out.
well if you really like her get to know her first

then ask her out
WAYYYYYYY to soon man wait atleast 3 months
what the worst that can happen...do it!
jst go 4 it
yes u should
talk to her online and tell her u like her.

that way you dont have to face her

African american....... deep conditioning advice..... Help please??

2010-04-30T06:15:00.000-07:00

I deep condition my hair every week. Would it be ok if i did it over night (to sleep with my hair wet under a steam cap with some form of deep conditioner in it) or can that give me a cold? Advice please?African american....... deep conditioning advice..... Help please??
i would'nt sleep with a regular conditioner in my hair unless it's a leave in, because your hair can become really limp. i love to use perfect results deep triple silk conditioner, it works really well and it's at all beauty supplies.African american....... deep conditioning advice..... Help please??
NOOOOOOO it is not good for your hair as a black, white, red, orange person. You can not sleep in a conditioning cap overnight, your hair will be slimy the next morning, weak and break off, totally defeating the purpose of deep conditioning. More than 30-45 minutes is too much. Read the instructions of whatever product you use. Some of the stronger protein conditioners/reconstructors (apoghee/keracare) will actually mess up your hair if left on longer than 20-30mins.

If you can't fit deep condition in schedule try paul mitchell supercharge moisturizer, 3-5 minutes and you're good, or use creme of nature with conditioner. daily you can use a night time product to help your hair.
No that will actually be GOOD for your hair. I'm caucasian however, I have very ethnic hair.. I deep condition my hair over night about once every two weeks.. it keeps it very soft. Also, try washing your hair first then applying the deep conditioner and taking a really long HOT shower. The steam really helps the pores in your hair open up and let the conditioner and moisturizer seep in. :)
I would not do that, you could get sick why not just pick a Saturday to stay in all day and leave the conditioner in all day long, let it dry then rinse the next morning.
That is what some women do. It should be fine. You could also try a leave-in conditioner, like Infusion.

How to present a show??? help and advice please?

2010-04-30T06:14:00.002-07:00

i'm supposed 2 be presenting a small show in school...consisting of a few dances, solo performances and drama productions..

i will be introducing the acts and performances by saying ' Up next on stage we have Ms...' etc.

But how do i congratulate them after their performances??? just 'well done'????

wat else can i say or do...Thankyou in advanceHow to present a show??? help and advice please?
So you are an MC? Go online and search ';Master of Ceremonies';. You'll find stuff.

Online job application help/advice regarding calling places.?

2010-04-30T06:14:00.001-07:00

i applied online to safeways, giants, borders, and blockbusters.

Should i ask to speak to the hiring manager or manager?Online job application help/advice regarding calling places.?
Online job application is safe.I spoke to hiring manager.So visit this site

www.adsgola.com

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I want to breed my Labs & GSDs. Great temperament, in good health. Advice & help on breeding? Have a few Q's!!

2010-04-30T06:14:00.000-07:00

I have been thinking about breeding my dogs for a few months now and I decided to go along with it. Problem is, I've got no idea how to go about it! I have two Labs and two GSDs. A 2 y/o black female Lab named Nina, 9 m/o choc. Lab named King. My GSDs are Tara: 3 year old female. Roo: 4 year old male. I also have two Chis but I decided not to breed as there are too many risks when breeding Chis. My dogs are not show dogs but they each have great personalities. Alll my dogs have a great temperament, have been thoroughly health checked by a vet, are up-to-date on flea and worming, vaccinations etc. and have great personality traits. I don't want to breed for money but simply because I love the breeds that I own (Lab, GSD %26amp; Chi). My dogs have very good bloodlines and are of showing/breeding quality - I just haven't have the time to show them. I know what a backyard breeder and if I breed my dogs, I don't want to become one as they have such a bad reputation for being bad animal owners.I want to breed my Labs %26amp; GSDs. Great temperament, in good health. Advice %26amp; help on breeding? Have a few Q's!!
';Freedom to choose... it surely is your right to breed your dog or cat. Your own good judgment and our free society allow you to breed your pet at any time and as often as you wish. I and many others support that freedom. Nevertheless, there are thousands of Americans who devote their lives to caring for and finding homes for abandoned and orphaned dogs and cats. Some of these hard working people have asked ThePetCenter to remind potential breeders that there can be a silent, unpleasant side to the breeding activity. To honor those hard working people who care for abandoned pets, I would like you to consider just a few important effects of irresponsible breeding of pets. You have the freedom of choice... please be a responsible pet owner.

From the animal shelter perspective:

If you plan to breed your dog or cat, please consider a few very important issues before you make a final determination to add more pets to a population that is presently too large for all the individual animals to have a good home. It is interesting to note that if you do choose to breed your dog or cat and you do have good homes waiting, those homes probably will not be an available home for an abandoned or orphaned animal that waits to be adopted, sometimes endlessly, in a local shelter or pound.

It has been estimated that in six short years one female dog and her offspring could be the source of 50,000 puppies. In seven years a female cat could be responsible for over 350,000 kittens. The number of cats and dogs entering shelters annually is about 9 million... and an estimated 4 to 6 million dogs and cats are euthanized in America's 5 thousand animal shelters each year. '; (qtd Dr. Dunn)

With that said here are some links for you....I want to breed my Labs %26amp; GSDs. Great temperament, in good health. Advice %26amp; help on breeding? Have a few Q's!!
I am sure that you got an earfull from everyone else on why breeding is not a good idea. I will only tell you this. IF your shepherds are of any quality, get them a working title FIRST. Prove to the world that they have the qualities you speak of. Then get them both Breed survey reported by a Kormeister. It os a long and expensive process where a person who has spent several decades examining EVERY ASPECT of a shepherd will go over your dog with a fine toothcomb and report FOR

EVERYONE TO SEE the qualities of your dog. What do they look for? Here is a SHORT LIST. Evaluation of general

condition, size, overall structure, firmness of

ligaments,gait,instinctive behavior, self confidence and ability to deal with stress for openers. Then we have the generalities like height at withers, chest depth, chest circumference, weight, pigment,coat,testicles,color/markings. After that we go to temperament, nerves, gun sureness, instinctive behavior, self confidence and ability to cope with stress. And we have assessment while standing and in motion. After you get done with all of the things that I just mentioned, and I was very brief and left out a lot of parts, YOU get BREEDING RECOMMENDATIONS/ADVICE/WARNINGS. That means that after all these tests your dog may still not be a breeding animal. What I am trying to tell you is that we only breed for ONE reason and ONE reason only. TO IMPROVE THE BREED, PERIOD. Not for money not for fun and not for fame. Breeding animals in the shepherd breed cost RIDICULOUS ammounts of money, more then most of us can even dream of. If you have all of that I welcome you to breed your dogs.

PS I just wanted to add here that one of the best WORKING shepherds in the last 50 years and the top working dog in Holland a few years ago was bred to several females and produced total crap every time. I found out the hard way that just because you have a top PERFORMANCE DOG does not mean that he can produce himself. That is a whole other story. Please consider what I have said very carefully.
Parents being cleared only means it is UNLIKELY they will pass a genetic defect on to a litter. IT CAN STILL OCCUR! If you don't want to be considered a byb, you NEED to properly health test your dogs, period. You are judging the breeding quality of your dogs here. You need to find a professional breeder, who knows the standard inside and out, and shows your breed, to get an unbiased opinion as to if your dogs ACTUALLY ARE worthy of breeding. IT IS UNETHICAL FOR YOU TO MAKE THIS CALL!

If you aren't doing these things, you are going to be nothing more than a BYB.
Where were these dogs purchased from? If they have registration with AKC, thats the first step. If no papers, ensure theya re purebred, or don't breed. If you purchased from a pet store, they are not pure bred.

There are many GSD's and Lab's out there already, tons of breeders, back yard breeders, puppy mills.. Each other breed of dogs you mentioned have gone down hill in thel ast 20 years due to bad breeding.

You need to educate yourself fully on these breeds, and CHAMPION each one of these dogs before breeding. You need to do genetic testing and ... honestly, posting this question on Yaho Answeres only shows that you are really not serious, or ready to start breeding.

Spay and neuter your dogs.
At the bare minimum, you HAVE to have hips and elbows done. Check on the breed club website for more information (gsdca.org).

There are many very good books about breeding and genetics at dogwise.com. One of the better ones is even written by a Lab breeder. But a book doesn't have to be breed specific for it to be useful.

Do you realize, once you use one of your males, ESPECIALLY one one of your bit ches, he may become much more difficult to handle? He will likely have an increase in unwanted male behaviors like marking, humping, and aggression. Some studs ONLY think about breeding, ALL the time. Are you prepared to deal with these behaviors for however many years? You CAN have her bred elsewhere and save yourself the issues. And then you can also choose the male that complements her best, instead of yours who, while cheap and convenient, may or may not be the best choice for this particular bit ch. What are you hoping to improve in her? Does he have it? Does his littermates and parents have it?

Are you prepared to lose a bit ch during whelping? Are you prepared to spend $1200 + on a C-secion?

Some things to think about.

I have no problem with someone breeding healthy, nice pets. It is people like you that should be doing it more and maybe the commercial breeders wouldn't have so many sales.

Good luck!

To the other posters - It is concerned, conscientious people like this that SHOULD be breeding pets!!! Show breeders breed a VERY small percentage of litters whelped and cannot possibly supply the country with PB pets. If MORE good people bred healthy pets, there would be LESS market for commercial breeders and puppy mills!!! If you all want to stop everyone except for show breeders from breeding, where do you all think you would get a PB dog??? BETTER a conscienscious pet breeder who loves her dogs than some guy in the woods who doesn't care about his animals!

I must agree with Torbay. I have never heard of a breeder charging for ';breeding rights';. Either they are breeding quality, or they aren't. Makes me a bit skeptical of the people you purchased yours from.
Another BYB, you guys are multiplying like rats......Get a life!! not make more unwanted ones.
If you haven't the time to show, how will you have the time to rear a litter? If you don't have your dogs health tested before breeding, do you realise you could be sued by the new owners if the pups later develop problems. To be a responsible breeder, you need to be knowledgeable about all aspects of your breed. Could you honestly say your dogs are outstanding specimens of their breed and explain why?

Do you have the facilities to take back any of your pups at any time of their lives should their new owners decide to give them up?

You say you've got a friend who wants 2 pups - first mistake is selling 2 pups from the same litter together - recipe for disaster.
First you should not breed dogs until they are around 1 1/2 yrs old. When I first started breeding I bought a book from Borders about breeding and contacted my vet and discussed it with her. You should definitely have them vet checked for hereditary problems in the breeds. I have Saints and had their hips checked. Breeding and raising dogs is a very big commitment and expense(vet bills, dog food etc...) Please do as much research as you can before you breed and remember you are responsible for the pups so if they do not sell or if they are brought back you can easily get in over your head no matter how much room you have.
Please don't breed. There are so many homeless GSDs and GSD mixes as it is. Take a trip to your local shelter or Shepherd rescue and I hope you'll change your mind about adding to the homeless pet problem.

If you love the breeds you own, why not get involved with one of these rescue groups instead? You could be a great asset at a shelter or rescue group due to your love of the breeds and I am willing to bet that you will feel much more rewarded by helping a homeless GSD or Lab get a home rather than breeding your own.
Back yard breeder is just a term. it is does not literally mean someone who throws their dogs in the backyard to breed and leaves them out there. a back yard breeder is someone who breeds dogs just for the heck of it, with no consideration for bettering the breed. even someone who treats their dog like a family member can still be a BYB. in my opinion, there are FAR too many labs and GSD's in shelters right now to even consider breeding. a ';good personality'; is not a reason to breed! Health testing for breeding is VASTLY different from a vet check up. it is very expensive. i have to say, if you were someone who should be breeding, you wouldn't be on here asking basic questions about this. please reconsider. puppies are fun, and cute, but thousands of puppies with ';good temperaments'; are put down every single day. why add to the problem for your own amusement?
These are two breeds with LOTS of genetic issues so you need to have more than just a vet checkup to tell you if they are carriers of any of the cardiac, thyroid, or orthopedic issues that can effect these breeds.

Have your dogs' hips and elbows OFA certified, get their eyes and hearts certified too and have their thyroid levels checked and certified. There can be surprisingly horrible results from careless breeding.... it's not just a funny looking pup or a sickly dog.... it's as serious as a dog who will turn suddenly vicious and attack its owner or who may become crippled at six months old.

Do you want to be responsible for that? I don't think so. Do the right thing and have these tests done first to avoid any health issues down the line. Just because a dogs pedigree shows no sign of genetic issues doesn't guarantee they haven't surfaced in your dog.... each individual dog need to be tested. The offspring of two dogs who passed OFA can fail to pass themselves. This applies with all the tests as wel, because genetics are not perfect, they mutate... therefore each test NEEDS to be done with every generation.

If they are all physically cream of the crop, then you are over the first hurdle. Next you need to be sure your dogs are good examples of their breeds and this requires the assistance of an experienced breeder. Even if you have no time to show a dog, you should have the time to get them evalutated for conformation by a breeder. Then you can see if pairing your dogs is the right choice or if you may need to choose and outside stud for your ***** to produce the best litter possible.

I know you said you have a couple of people who already want some pups, but you need to be sure you can find homes for up to ten puppies as both Labs and GSDs can have very large litters. I would bet on at least eight pups and find eight homes before the breeding even takes place.

And having no time is no excuse for having no titles on your dogs, at the very minimum they should have some sort of obedience recognition..... a CGC or Therpy dog title to show your dedication to being a responsible owner and to show prospective buyers that your dogs are intelligent and trainable so they don't just have to rely on your word.

I am glad you are thinking about all this now before taking the leap to breed, but I urge you to read as much as you can about the entire process, including raising the pups, before going forward. Also get your self a mentor, maybe the breeder you have evaluate your dogs, an experinced breeder is a priceless resource. You say you didn't find your breeders much help, but if they are as good as you say they are, they should be the ones you turn to. If they aren't as good as you say, then rethink your whole breeding agenda. If you don't like their ways, then you probably shouldn't breed their dogs. Find a breeder who you do find to be helpful and edcuated about their breed and be open minded... not everything a mentor will tell you will be good, they should be unbiased and critique your dogs for the good of the breed. A good breeder will not let things slide just to get a litter of pups on the ground. I've had only one littler in the past four years because I haven't been satisfied with my breeding prospects right now.

Good luck and don't forget.... breeding should always be for the betterment of the breed!
Just because a vet says they are healthy enough to breed, does NOT mean they are. Do you know anything about OFA??????

http://www.offa.org/

Go there are do some research. Both breeds HAVE to have health clearances. Otherwise YOU WILL be a BYB.

Do have time to show. I don't either. That is why I pay a handler. That way I know my dogs are show/breeding quality.

When you buy a puppy, you get show/breeding POTENTIAL. Until proven that it IS show/breeding QUALITY that is all you got. MANY show potential puppies end up being pet quality.

If you are breeding because you love a breed, you do ALL health clearances, you show some and prove the quality, THEN you think about breeding. You just want to skip to that part. If that is how you do it, that is the very defination of a BYB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You will have to be willing to pony up some serious bucks to do it right. Health clearances for each breeding dog cost from $300-800. Showing is quite expensive also. At the very least, you go to a few GOOD breeders or handlers and have the dogs evaluated to see if OTHER people think they are show/breeding quality.

This is not easy and takes YEARS. Do it the easy way, and you are sure to be called a BYB.

Clearly, you got your dogs from questionable sources......no GOOD and REAL breeders charge for the ';breeding rights';. That is sad.
Unless you have had your dogs the ones your are going to breed screened for health issues you should not breed them. If their parents were screened the breed did the right thing. If you do not screen the ones you are going to breed you are doing the wrong thing. Even if the parents are OK does not mean your dogs are.

An OFA rating coming from excellent parents does not mean all the pups will be excellent also. They could only be fair and with that rating you might not want to breed them.

Paying a lot of money for your dogs and getting AKC registered dogs means very little. AKC is purely a registry service and in no way shape of form has anything to do with the quality of the dog.

If you have not shown these dogs ,(no time is a poor excuse) how do you know they are breeding quality. The breeder who bred them would not know that until the dog was full grown and had earned a CH title and passed a CERF and OFA and thyroid testing and some other things appropriate for each breed.

If one of the breeders is offering to mentor you that is the very best way to get into breeding. If they are a good breeder they will have all the answers you need and many more.

Most people use a stud and not their own pets to breed. Most people do not own two dogs of breeding quality and most want a stud that will help with their females lesser areas of fit to a breed standard.
HI,

first eye test and pin hip your dogs, Spay neuter contract for the puppies, vet check the puppies, have contract saying if they need to get rid of the dog it comes back to you. Ask question to the prospective owner do you have adequate space, fence yard, vet references or what vet so you plan on using.

Lammy
Have you OFA'd your GSDs? Had their thyroid and cardio testing done?

Just because they came from health tested sire %26amp; dams doesn't mean they are clear of hereditary issues. Breeding a dog and a ****** both with Excellent or Good OFA hip ratings DOES not guarantee every one of their pup's hips will be fine. OFA screening cannot be done until they are 24 months.

Are you willing to take back and/or replace a dog that you've produced that has poor or severe hip ratings?

Thyroid %26amp; cardio are annual tests. A dog with a Normal cardio reading one year might have problems the following year (which is why it is an ANNUAL screening).
Look at this and then re-consider breeding your dogs: http://www.brightlion.com/InHope/InHope_鈥?/a> - it is sure to make ANY animal lover cry.

I'm not going to waste my time telling you how stupid it would be of you to breed your dogs just because they have a ';great temperament'; and are ';in good health';.

Edit: Actually, you know what, It's 1:30am and I have nothing else to do with my time. You NEED to get your dogs checked for all hereditary diseases. Labs are especially prone to hip and elbow dysplasia and PRA (eye disease). Labs MUST be checked for these herediary diseases. GSDs are VERY, VERY prone to elbow dysplasia and hip dysplasia is popping up now. GSDs are prone to MANY other hereditary diseases. A good temperament, up to date vaccinations and a thorough check by a vet is NO reason to breed. Good bloodlines and AKC registration is a START. Will you have $1200 on had for an emergency c-section shall something go wrong while a ***** is giving birth? Are you going to be prepared to deal with the loss if something goes wrong and your ***** and her pups die? If you loved the breed, or dogs at all, you would NEUTER AND SPAY the dogs. If you don't have the time to enter shows, you can hire a handler to take the dogs. Labs and GSDs make EXCELLENT PETS. Why not just leave the dogs alone and let them be PETS? Show/breeding quality means nothing. Most breeders can't tell whether the puppy will be of breeding/show quality when (s)he is 2 years old.

Edit 2: The person who posted under me is right. Labs are known for having big litters. They can have up to 12+ puppies. I know someone who's Lab had 13 puppies. GSDs can also have many puppies. Over 10 pups are common. What are you going to do if you can't find suitable homes for the 7+ Lab puppies and the 5+ GSD pups? And I also completely agree with torbay.
The problem I have with this is that you're breeding the dogs simply because they have great temperments. You know what? That means that you're a great owner and trainer. Great owners tend to have dogs with great temperments over and over again. If you got a dog from the pound, I don't doubt it would have a great temperment. It doesn't mean you should breed the dog.

Simply having a dog with good bloodlines and great temperment are not enough.

You should be thinking about 'what does my dog specifically contribute to the GSD gene pool that is not there already?' What is so outstanding about my dog that this dog needs to have his genes continue? If the dog has not been shown either in conformation or in performance, you don't have much to go on. A great temperment is not enough to warrent additional puppies. Check petfinder and other sites for rescued GSD's. There are great dogs out there who's only crime they may die for is lack of enough homes.

I had a dog years ago and I thought the same way you did about this dog. He was fabulous. Talented, friendly, very smart. Fact was, after many years I've had many of these dogs. Not all the same but they had great temperments and I loved them all. And I didn't need to end up breeding my dog at all, I found another dog and made him into the great dog I wanted - even my rescue dog.

So I would pat yourself on the back and then either get your dog into the show ring and determine if he has what it takes or find a nice rescue or other dog that you can make into your next great dog and skip the whole puppy issue.

Okay im going on a SERIOUS detox. tips/advice/help please!?

2010-04-27T08:17:00.002-07:00

okay ive had enough of my spots and im going on a major detox

i already drink 8 glasses of water a day and ive seen no improvement

im going to cut out all sugar/junk food

does anyone have any advice for me?

or know of any foods to eat/avoid

oh and does anyone knwo roughly how long it will take to see results?

thanks!

xxxOkay im going on a SERIOUS detox. tips/advice/help please!?
Cut all sugary/fatty drinks and foods.

Stick to lean meats, fruits, veggies, whole grain breads and pastas. Try to avoid processed foods also.

You should also be doing some form of cardio at least 4 times/week if you want to see good results.

Weigh yourself about once every 2 weeks.

Where can I get good legal advice about a auto injury and getting some medical help.?

2010-04-27T08:17:00.001-07:00

I was seriously injured in an auto accident and have no personal ins. The dr.'s will not do 3rd. party billing %26amp; bill the auto ins. directly. They want me to pay for all care up front. The specialists want $500.00-$750.00 just for a consultation. I am in constant severe pain %26amp; need to get med. care fast but no one will help %26amp; the dr.'s won't let me make payments! Go figure. If anyone knows anything that can help or a good lawyer that can help please let me know.Where can I get good legal advice about a auto injury and getting some medical help.?
from an attorney that specializes in that. not an ambulance chaser....Where can I get good legal advice about a auto injury and getting some medical help.?
Well once I was hit by an 18 wheeler and instead of taking everyones advice I just looked the first name I found in the phone book and used that guy. It was better than all thse peoples advice and I really got alot of money. His name was Kelly Myers fromCorsicana Tx
Dear friend,

I would suggest you to take advice from a good lawyer

Try

http://www.usalegalcare.com
Call a personal injury lawyer.

Those leeches specialize in cases like this. There are hundreds in the phone book. Pick a few out and give em a call.

If you're in real bad pain, go to the ER of a public hospital. They have to treat you regardless if you have no insurance or even cannot pay the bill. Private hospitals, however, can refuse to treat you.
no win no fee
find a really great internee! do you have car insurgents?, if so call them and get an internee!

Advice/help about Acne treatment and products?

2010-04-27T08:17:00.000-07:00

Ok i have really bad Acne i used almost every acne product.

i

have not used proactive but a lot of people say it works. A lot of people say it does not work great.

i was thinking of buying

1# Skin ID neutrogena

2# proactive

3# clean and clear acne kit.

witch one helps work the best? Have you used any of these??Advice/help about Acne treatment and products?
if your acne is bad and has not responded to other acne products, I suggest going to the dermatologist

I had bad acne too, which did not respond to sooooo many different kits (including proactiv) so after a rather tramatic facial I went to the dermatologist

If you go see a doc they can really analyze what is casuing your acne and prescribe medicine to help treat it...

good luck!

Okay im going on a SERIOUS detox. tips/advice/help please!?

2010-04-27T08:16:00.003-07:00

Where can I get good legal advice about a auto injury and getting some medical help.?

2010-04-27T08:16:00.002-07:00

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Advice/help about Acne treatment and products?

2010-04-27T08:16:00.001-07:00

I need advice or help with a girl?

2010-04-27T08:16:00.000-07:00

There is a really pretty girl at my school named Megan. She is my perfect match and i think she likes me too. I asked her out last year, and she said no but kept flirting with me. This year i like her even more and i think she like me too. I need help on how to tell if she likes me, how to ask her out, or how to be a gentleman.I need advice or help with a girl?
Doesn't sound bad from where I'm standing. You're already flirting. Make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend, and take a guess at whether or not she's attracted to some other guy. Then ask her out again. But don't just say ';Wanna go out sometime?'; After a particularly good conversation you have with her, say something like ';I've been thinking... and I'd really like it if you and I go out sometime.'; And wait for her to reply.I need advice or help with a girl?
ask her out! don't let her go!

cause there is really not that much perfect girl/boy in the world! and it is hard finding them.

just ask her if you keep flirting with me,

why don't you say yes when i ask you out?
You can just ask her out! If she likes you she will say yes. As for the gentleman part, treat her with respect and don't push for more than shes willing to give.

Nike air force ones i need advice please help?

2010-04-27T08:15:00.003-07:00

i want nike air force ones but i have heard that they are too narrow and i kind of all ways wear wide shoes what is your opinion i need advice please anwser also should i get mid tops low tops or hi tops ?Nike air force ones i need advice please help?
i think you can get them in wide im not sure, but forget what people tell you. wherever you're going to buy them, try them on %26amp; see if you like them. remember that sometimes it takes a couple of days to get used to your new shoes. the style i mostly see are low tops or hi tops. i have low tops myself.Nike air force ones i need advice please help?
I have wide-ish feet too, but the nike air force ones were not tight at all. I got the low tops because I think they look better, but that's just preference. Try the shoe first at the shoe store to see if its comfortable because everyone's feet are different.

Good luck!

I have a severe hair fall problem.can i find any help or advice regarding it.please help?

2010-04-27T08:15:00.002-07:00

i am 30 female and staying in saudi.i came here from india 6 months back.after coming here i am loosing my hair .the amount of hair i am loosing is more.i don't have dandruff.i am fearing if this goes on,i won't be left with any hair on my head.please advice or help me what care i should take.I have a severe hair fall problem.can i find any help or advice regarding it.please help?
this is a very common problem,

hair fall can be due to several reasons and each requires a different remedy.

it may be because you're taking too much stress or tension,

if this is so, try to reduce stress, and if that's not possible, concentrate on your diet, you should eat healthy food, and salads and fruits..

Another reason can be the weather and climate change you experienced and a change in the kind of water your washing your hair with,

for this you should give it some time to adjust,,many people experience this problem when they shift from one place to another..it will eventually be okay

BUT u can always oil your hair regularly and dint use conditioner (if you are)

mix 1 egg with 2 tbsp honey and half cup yogurt and apply the lather to ur hair..leave it on for 30 mins and rinse it off

apply the mixture once a week

Best of luck!I have a severe hair fall problem.can i find any help or advice regarding it.please help?
Hair loss can be mainly caused by major shocks or stress related to the person. If you are stressed or in some type of trauma then this maybe the reason for your situation- even if it was something that happened a while back. The good thing is that hair falls out and re-grows back all the time. However you need to make sure that you can do less yourself to make this problem a bigger one.

Eating green vegetables will also help for nutrition and they contain some vitamins which is useful for the hair- making it stronger and more healthier. Egg is also goodfor the hair,try to eat at least three boiled eggs a week.

Wash your hair at least three-four times a week. Greasy hair can also be a factor which causes the hair to fall out regularly. And try changing the brand of shampoo you use, it could be that the product you use currently is too strong or too mild so it isn't suitable.

I'm not sure whether it is available in Saudi, but here in Europe there is a medicine called 'Evening Primrose' which are basically pills you take for all kinds of problems. Before I used to find large amounts of hair in the shower and a lot on the hairbrush too but now thankfully,due to these pills only a small quantity of hair falls out. Alternatively, you could take vitamins for the growth of hair and nails which can be found in any local pharmacies.

This site also has a lot of detail in to solve your problem;

http://ezinearticles.com/?7-Tips-to-Hair-Loss-Prevention%26amp;id=111255

And try not to think about it so much,these things are natural. But I hope you so find your solution.

S.J x
There are a number of reasons why this could be happening, from personal experience, if you loss alot of weight in a short amount of time this can lead to hairloss, Stress, Grief, anxiety and depression can all lead to a condiion called Alopecia (dont know if i spelt it right), also If you feel tired as well this could be the result of an under active thyroid, it can cause hair loss and dry skin.

if this doesnt help i would recommand taking a multi-vitamin it might help your hair recover, or if you dye your hair you culd be suffering an allergic reaction.
I would say not to use chemicals on your hair. Why don't you go for some home remedies. Egg whites,lemon juice, oil massages, reducing stress and diet changes can reduce hair fall and make it healthier.You can find more cheap, effective and natural home remedies for hair loss at http://www.wellnesstalk.org/hairfall.htm鈥?/a>

Wanted Kids advice to help me with my kids party

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Bithday party games. Ages 7 - 11 years old.

The party theme is ';Pop Stars'; Hanna Montana, HighSchool Musical and Jonas Brothers. got all the decor and gifts, now i need games. I got some ideas and poposed them to my kids and they were like uhh, no. its my 7 year olds 8th birthday but most of her friends are older cause thats what in our neighborhood. Some kids from her school are coming. She says, musical chairs is for babies and so is duck duck goose. So far the games I goggled for this age are.

Sleeping Lions (all the kids lay down and someone goes around to make them laugh whever laughs is out)

Three legged sack race

Water Ballon Toss

I need games with only 1 or 2 winners per game

Wanted Kids advice to help me with my kids party
they could play a game called statues =]

my 11 year old brother lovessss it!

everybody but two people have to freeze in any position and then the two people come around. one person is the buyer, and one is the seller (of the statues) and they go around trying to make the kids laugh. i guess its kind of like that sleeping lions game but a little different! i hope this wasn't to confusing, if you have any more questions just e-mail!Wanted Kids advice to help me with my kids party
have a talent contest for high school musical? and get judges?

I leave for my RAF basic training in four weeks any advice that will help me get through it all?

2010-04-27T08:15:00.000-07:00

A good attitude. Helps both in life and flying. Seriously though, if you think positively, it will be much easier on you and you will be through it in no time at all.I leave for my RAF basic training in four weeks any advice that will help me get through it all?
During training you are assesed on your attitude as well as on your performance.

Give 100% effort in everything you are asked to do, this shows the training staff that you are serious and will be noted.

All the other things are common sense, get as fit as you can before you go, keep your mouth shut and ears open ( you have one mouth and 2 ears so you can listen twice as much as you speak...etc)

At times you will just want to give up and go home, everyone will, but keep going, and at the end of it you will have achieved something to be very proud of (the only way you could be prouder is to join the Army - but I'm Biased!)

Last piece of advice, Buy the best Iron you can afford, steam is your friend. You'll understand why at the end of week 1

Good luck!I leave for my RAF basic training in four weeks any advice that will help me get through it all?
when the Drill instructor is Yelling at you he does not hate you it is his job to try and intimidate you

do not be afraid to ask questions if you don't understand

and if the Cpl says you are an idiot agree with him

I did 2 lots of recruit Training one IN the RAF and one in the Royal Australian Air Force i was a gun plumber /cracker stacker and i do remember a Cpl saying you are an idiot Airman what are you I am an Idiot Cpl

I retired after 38 years as a Warrant Officer Explosives Ordnance Engineer so i was not such an idiot should have applied for a commission before i was 42 Bigger Pension

But had the best boots in the RAAF my best friend joined the Royal Marine Commandos and finished up as a senior instructor SAS/SBS and one of His Cpls polished my best RAF boots to Commando standards which i wore to my RAAF pass out Parade

advice Polite Yes Cpl Yes Sgt Yes Sir is half the battle and a Good Quality salute to officer

yes i Know they want you to fly Like an Eagle but it is difficult at times when you work with a bunch of turkeys

I wish you Good Luck remember it is only a few Months then it gets easier

pores

Help!Do you guys think this is rude or just an advice for my girlfriend?

2010-04-27T08:14:00.003-07:00

There is this girl in my girlfriend's and I class who tells my girlfriend what seems to be advice but at the same time, it seems rude.She tells my girlfriend that she should watch out for the other girls at my school because they will try to take me away from her because of my looks.She tells my girlfriend in front of me that she has a cute boyfriend, which is me.Help!Do you guys think this is rude or just an advice for my girlfriend?
tell that other girl to back off of your girl and leave her aloneHelp!Do you guys think this is rude or just an advice for my girlfriend?
well not really if there best friends its honesty and that's what best friend expect from one another weather if it hurts or not and your girlfriend probably takes it as a complement i know i did when my bf told me my boyfriend was cute hey girls can look but not touch!

HELP! I need some advice on restoring stained floors and potty training chihuahuas!?

2010-04-27T08:14:00.002-07:00

When we moved into our little house, there were dark spots on the floor from pets that the previous owner was unable to curb or detect until the carpet was lifted. Now, we have a chihuahua of our own and he is doing the same thing. We pulled up a carpet and found some black stains where he'd been relieving himself when we weren't around. 1) For dogowners, what can we do to prevent this? Our chihuahua is now 1 year and about 4 months old and I hope not too old to ';learn new tricks.'; and 2) For homeowners, is there anything we can do to get rid of the dark stains on the floors? This is a rental property and we don't plan to stay here forever. We'd like to try to do something restorative to the floors so we don't lose our deposit when the time comes.HELP! I need some advice on restoring stained floors and potty training chihuahuas!?
I have never found anything that will repair wood that has been darkened by dog urine. To remove the odor so even the dog cannot detect it you need to clean the carpet and the floor with white vinegar. You might want to confine your dog to the kitchen or bathroom when you are not able to watch it closely. Usually those two rooms have more durable flooring such as tile or vinyl. It is a very small breed, why not start from step one and try to paper train it or even doggy litter box train it. Yes, the do make a litter box and litter for dogs now.HELP! I need some advice on restoring stained floors and potty training chihuahuas!?
Just visit these blogs

http://allabourdogbreeds.blogspot.com

http://dogkinds.blogspot.com

and I am sure you will fin an anwer to all your Dog Realted queries.

Boyfriend advice??? help my dad is being uncivilised?

2010-04-27T08:14:00.001-07:00

hi i recently got a boyfriend... and well my dad thinks i am WAY to young but i think its just cause im his little girl i mean im 15 yrs old and the guy im seeing is really nice but my dad wont give him a chance what should i do???Boyfriend advice??? help my dad is being uncivilised?
I'm in your situation..sort of.

I grew up in a very racist home and my boyfriend is black. Well my parents highly disaprove. If the boy you like cares about you he will wait for times when you can see him, like maybe you can see him sometime at the mall or somewhere your parents wouldn't notice if you feel you MUST see him.

But, you could try to invite him over to your house and have your parents meet him.. nd have him keep coming over. Make him prove himself.Boyfriend advice??? help my dad is being uncivilised?
You don't need your dad's approval. Just keep your relationship quiet. Your dad isn't going to give him a chance to prove himself, you said it yourself. So you're not going to get his approval.
How old is your boyfriend. If he is 18 and older than your dad is right.
ok. well just write down how you feel, parents might not listen but they can read.

SHOW him he's a good guy :) all dads are like that at first..he'll get used to it.

I run track. I run the 100 in 12.2 i was looking for any advice to help me get under 12.Any answers are welcom?

2010-04-27T08:14:00.000-07:00

At 11 my daughter is upset about growing up. Any advice on how to help her transition a little more happily?

2010-04-27T08:13:00.002-07:00

I really need some advice. Can someone help me out?

2010-04-27T08:13:00.001-07:00

pores

I have a small problem, and I need some help... Do you have any advice?

2010-04-27T08:13:00.000-07:00

Fashion advice/help?

2010-04-27T08:12:00.003-07:00

Hey everybody, I have to take a super long flight and I'm leaving from my house around 3am in the morning. I don't want to do my hair or makeup because honestly, I'll barely be awake. I have a two hour layover however and was planning on straightening my hair then, my question is: does anybody know if I'm allowed to take either a flat iron or a curling iron on the plane as carry-on? The curling iron is metal and the flat iron is half plastic with metal in the middle.

Thanks!Fashion advice/help?
i doubt it...sry...

i think you should just do it in the morning before you get to the airport or just put it in a messy bun!

you will most likely fall asleep on the plane anyways so it shouldn't really matter!Fashion advice/help?
i think u r not allow. sorry
ur definitely not allowed. i think
i've definately taken my chi in on a carryon! maybe i got lucky though?!!!
I dont think your aloud because of the metal but when you get off the plane you can just do all your makeup then. Its okay you dont need the makeup because everyone is beatiful!

I need help deciding if I want to do engineering, any advice?

2010-04-27T08:12:00.002-07:00

Hi! I need help finding a wedding reception in NJ where I can bring my own food. Any Advice? Please Help! ?

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Check with halls from service organizations, community halls, and church halls.Hi! I need help finding a wedding reception in NJ where I can bring my own food. Any Advice? Please Help! ?
I do not know of one, but I do know of a catering company in NJ that I do not believe is associated with a reception hall so I am sure he would have serviced a few receptions where you can bring your own food. Http://joesfamilykitchen.com is his website

I need help and advice, with my 19th bday party?

2010-04-27T08:12:00.000-07:00

ok so my birthday is next month september 17th. well i wanna have a theme to my party, but im not sure what.

ok ill tell you a little bout myself to help.

i love animals and art, im childish but mature.I need help and advice, with my 19th bday party?
how about a farm theme since you love animals?

i know that's silly but i dunno!!

btw: you're a metal horse virgo 3: born on the day of perseverance: if you didn't know =]

Sex advice HELP BOY PROBLEMS?

2010-04-27T08:11:00.003-07:00

This boy I like, he is 30 I am 16. We are kinda in love and have had sex. Except I just got raped my somebody else. Does this mean I am cheating on him if I was raped? cybreraped. I need help so please e-mail me. Thanks!Sex advice HELP BOY PROBLEMS?
if you were cyber raped than no but im not 100% sure what that means if you raped for real than no its not cheating. but advice stay away from a 30 year old when i was 14 i was with a 21 year old no good comes out of it and he should know better. Sex advice HELP BOY PROBLEMS?
How the hell can you be cyber-raped? That's the first time I ever heard of that before!

pores

Exercising inside my home. (PLEASE HELP/advice/ideas needed)?

2010-04-27T08:11:00.002-07:00

Hello, I do need some help from you. We have a little baby who is 1 week old and we wish you to advice on the?

2010-04-27T08:11:00.001-07:00

Hello, I do need some help from you. We have a little baby who is 1 week old and we wish you to advice on the lotion that can be use on her for bath and for body rubbing. We started using baby Johnson and it seems to be producing scares on her body. Kindly advice please!Hello, I do need some help from you. We have a little baby who is 1 week old and we wish you to advice on the?
I think my friend was advised to use Aqueous cream to bathe her baby in. It's kinder and more moisturising than anything else. It seems strange to bath a baby in thick white goo, but it is recommended by Midwives here in England.

If not, you should just use an extremely mild non-soap cleanser and don't put it directly on to the babies skin.

Alternate baths using cleansers with water-only baths.

Give your baby a bath when you think he needs one, but try to avoid daily bathing, particularly when your baby is newborn.

At the first sign of dryness, use a moisturiser every 12 hours or as needed; preferably a product without perfumes, dyes or preservatives.Hello, I do need some help from you. We have a little baby who is 1 week old and we wish you to advice on the?
I think you should check out this site: http://spiffybaby.com/Baby-Skin-Care-p-1-c-49.html

They carry a full line of all natural, vitamin rich baby skin care products specially formulated to nourish, sooth and protect baby's delicate skin.
Aveeno lotion that has Oatmael in it.

Work great and is more natural with less chemicals!

Advice about taking weekend courses to help get a job?

2010-04-27T08:11:00.000-07:00

I haven't worked in 5 years while I was a college student, but before that, I had 2 years retail sales experience, 1 of which I was an assistant manager.

So, I'm thinking of taking a year off after I graduate from college this month, and work in a retail setting in a supervisor type of position in order to save up money for graduate school.

Would it be a good idea to take some weekend courses on Management or Retail at a community college before applying for jobs, so that I CAN get a job. Because I'm concerned that my lack of employment in the past 5 years is gonna be a problem when looking for a job.

What do you think? Thanks for your opinions :-)Advice about taking weekend courses to help get a job?
I think that would be a great idea. You can never go wrong with taking courses and getting certificates and actually learning something.

You sound like you are on the right track.

Keep up the good work and good luck with everything.

PS. Remember to breath and enjoy moments.Advice about taking weekend courses to help get a job?
Taking the courses would be beneficial for your own personal knowledge and maybe helpful to get a higher rate of pay. However, I don't think they are necessary to take before you start applying for jobs. If you need to start making money for graduate school you should just start applying for jobs now. Waiting to apply for jobs until you finish the courses will just be more money out of your pocket (which you are trying to save) and more time before you can start making the money you need (you can start working now and earn money that you wouldn't get while waiting to complete the courses.) I think your experience in the past is good enough to get you the job. Just include on your employment application and/or resume the 5 years of college. Also if asked about the 5 year gap of employment let them know you were in school. Most employers understand that situations arrise which causes you to take time off of work (you could have gotten ill, you had to take care of a family member, you had a baby, went to school, relocated, etc.) It is a part of life and it can't be avoided. Also 5 years isn't very long considering some people don't work for 15-20 years. If an employer has a problem with it, you probably don't want to work for them anyways. They would probably just be to demanding and not very appreciative of you or your work. Which would cause more stress and problems that nobody needs or wants. You also could apply for jobs now and also enroll in the weekend courses and let them know you are attending these classes now if you believe they will help you get the job. If working on the weekends and the courses will conflict you could also take them online and you would never have to attend the class on campus and you can do it when you are available.

I don't know what your degree is in when you graduate this month, but is it possible for you to get a job in the field that your degree is in?

Good Luck and I wish you the best!
Why don't you visit www.americhoice.unfranchise.com

click on the ';about MA'; tab and click on the presentation link. This is a great way of making money while working from home. If you are interested, you can e-mail them at americhoice@unfranchise.com
try http://www.treasuretrooper.com/195006......

This is a great website to help you earn lots of money. For the first month you dont get too much money, but once you start refering you friends and other people you will start getting hundreds of dollars! It is 100% free you dont pay a thing most of my time i dont do anything because 60% of the money i make is from refering people so...

GOOD LUCK!

Hi i need some advice. How do i help my wife overcome her depression without splitting us apart, as it is now.

2010-04-27T08:10:00.002-07:00

It has been going on for a few months and refuses to talk to me about her problems. I love her very much and it hurts me to see her like this but i cant help if she wont let me in. She has mood swings, where she is fine one minute then snaps then goes into her shell and ignores me. I dont like it this way as it feels i have lost the women i married and whom i love, just because she treats me like a stranger. Has anyone gone through this with their partners.Hi i need some advice. How do i help my wife overcome her depression without splitting us apart, as it is now.
Listen to her, and support her. I know it must be really hard on you too. It must be awful to watch the person that you fell in love with disappear. Im sure that your wife doesnt mean to hurt you or treatr you like a stranger, infact she is probably not even aware that she is. If you give her some space when she goes into her shell and wait for her to come back out, that might help. But you also have to be there for her too, just floating about in the background for when she completely needs you. Also try and get her out of the house by going for a walk, a car drive, or a car drive to a nice place and go for a walk. Try to do things together, and I dont mean just watching the telly together! She will get better but you have to be there for help and help her through this, for better for worse, in sickness and in health!Hi i need some advice. How do i help my wife overcome her depression without splitting us apart, as it is now.
you cant help her, she has to do this herself. All you can do is be there when she needs you and trust me she will.

I have suffered from depression myself and my husband just waited until I needed him.

It was 10 years ago and this year we celebrate our 25 wedding anniversary.

Just remember it is not your fault, but it is not hers either.
Oh my god! I'm in the same situation as well! My husband has been to see the Local Mental health team and is going though the process of finding the right medication.

But it is torture to see him so upset and I just can't help because he just won't open up anymore - if you get any really good advice pass it on, please, before my marriage falls to bits.
u know u should just try to talk to her when she is in a good mood start with something positive and go from there
I'm going through that now as we speak. It seems to me that more women then men out there suffer from some sort of depression where they just emotionally shut down. And during this time, we don't want anything to do with you and nothing can get through to us either. I know for me that it only makes me feel worse when my husband tries to help me. I get really defensive and pissed off. And I just want to be left alone in my misery. Something that would work for me and maybe her is to try leaving her notes. She might not listen to you talk to her, but if she knows you care and she can come to you if she wants to , maybe she would do better just knowing you're there for her. The important thing is that you are there for her, thick or thin, better or worse. But try not to harp on her problems because they might cause more.

Other things you could do would be stage an intervention with people that love her. And put together a list of addresses and phone numbers of agencies that would listen to her and help her, if she can't talk to you.

The other thing you could do is pray.
Hi.....this is a tough spot, I gone through it with my last girlfriend, and it did not end with good results........try to watch out for her, as you can......let her know that you love and care for her, and you are there if she needs to talk......if she is receptive, try getting some counseling together.........Being treated as a stranger hurts, I know......also, consider that she may be developing a bi-polar disorder.......
She needs to go to her GP,if she hasn't already, quickly. I know it's hard for you to cope with but she won't be understanding her moods, let alone be able to explain them to someone else. It is a lonely, painful affliction. The most you can do is be there for her and let her know that you are trying to understand and that you will work through it with her. With antidepressants and counselling she will be able to work through it. Hold in there. X x
Is this cronic? does she have a history of depression? it's usually has a family background, she needs to see her family doctor, most depression is easily treated, the hard part is admitting there's a problem and going for that help, you need to stand by her and help when she's ready, let her know in small ways you love her. and you will be there for better or worse...Hang tough you'll make it.
How old is she, could be going through Menopause. Anyways, seems like she needs to be on antidepressants, I would advice you take her to see a doctor.
According to the reading I have done regarding hypoglycemia (low blood sugar) the brain, when it senses that blood sugar is low, will do sometimes strange things to get the blood sugar (glucose) out of storage and into the blood stream. If it can't then it may reduce operations, causing tiredness and possibly depression. If your wife is going through the ';change of life'; or any other major hormonal changes (pregnancy, hysterectomy, etc), then low blood sugar is possibly the cause.

Suggestion? Go to the kitchen and get some protein, meat, a can of tuna or whatever, and see if you can tease her into eating just a bit it. Also have some carbohydrate, like a handful of chips, or some carrots/celery and some nuts or peanut butter, whatever she likes. Try to get her to eat at least 2 ounces of the protein preferably with a glass of water. Then stay away from her for about 30 minutes unless you can get her to do something active, with you or without you. You may find her mood to brighten a bit.

Chronic low blood sugar can also cause self-esteem problems, anger management problems and a whole bunch of other physical and mental nasties. You may want to check out the symptoms link on www.hufa.org, and see how she checks out.
im really sorry to hear that but all i can tell u now is that u need to give her space because the more u hassle her, the more u are gona push her away...
She needs medical help.

One can only guess at what is going on with her. And it wouldn't be right to make suggestions, you'd end up nuts with the worry.

Hope you can get her to the GP.
JUST WONDERIN

HAVE U DONE ANY THING THAT MIGHT HAVE UP SET HER, IF SO WHAT...

IS IT REALY THAT BAD OR, IS SHE DEPRESSED FROM WORK,

IS SHE NOT GETTIN ENUF ATTENTION...

SPEN 2 DAYS IN PARIS, AND U WOULD B LIKE NEWLY WEDDED CUPLES.

AND TRY TO DO SUM SUPRISES, LIKE BRING FLOWER TO HER EVERY 2 DAYS, TO MAKE HER DAY,

TAKE HER FOR DINNER..

BUT WHEN SHE DONT TALK TO U, U DONT TALK TO HER,

WEN SHES IN A GOOD MOOD, U TALK TO HER
I've had the same problems with my missus for 7 years and I haven't found an answer, because she won't accept it's something she needs help with. Good luck. You are not alone but I don't know what the answer is.
I do not have the answer to your question but I want to commend you for your loyalty. Most people today view marriage as something you can throw away at the drop of a hat. So hang in there! And I hope whatever road you choose, It brings you closer together rather than split you two apart.
just support her as much as you can, show her you love her though this may make her feel worse as she may then feel guilty.

try to just love her as she is and if it gets too much go and have councilling yourself to be able to cope with how she is better, which may help he rot move on.

fat is that we all go thrugh these tings sometimes whether male or female and we usually just need time to work something out within oursleves, bit concerned by the seriousness of some of the other replies which may be applicable but try not to get too stressed out by them and what is going on,relax and if she loves you she will come around at some point just give it time.
You just have to be as supportive of her as you can, while still retaining your own identity. You can't solve her problems for her, you just have to show her that no matter what is going on in her life, you will still be there for her.

Reassurance.

When you are depressed, it can feel that the whole world is against you.

Reassurance.

Partners are often left to feel neglected, but at times like these, the partner has to bite the bullet and accept that their needs aren't going to be met by the person suffering. (easier said than done, I know).

Reassurance.

You also need to make sure that you have other interests.

If you become so involved in the problems that your wife is experiencing, that you neglect your other interests, then you become less effective in your abilities to cope, not just for your wife's benefit, but also your own.

Reassurance.

Even if your wife can't talk to you, you need to have someone to talk to for your own benefit.

Reassurance.

There is no guarantee that your wife will see the efforts that you are making, but you still have to make them.

Reassurance.

Have you talked to your own doctor about your feelings and experience? A good idea.

Has she talked to her doctor? A very good idea.

(You can't force this, unless she is so ill, that she is a serious risk to either her own health and wellbeing, or those around her.)

I guess the most important thing is that you give her all the unconditional love and support that she needs.

I wish you both well.

Feel free to contact me via answers if you want me to elaborate any further.
You've taken the first difficult step for yourself, asking for help by putting your question out on the internet.

I think you need to talk to your doctor who will then be able to advise on the best cause of action. Maybe make a joint appointment so that your wife can hear and believe how worried you are about her.

When someone you love is suffering from depression you need to look after yourself as much as you look after your loved one.

If you'd like to read something helpful get a book called ';What to do when someone you love is depressed'; ISBN 080505829X. I'm not the author, just someone who suffers with depression and have found this book has helped me to understand what loved ones go through when I'm depressed.

Take care.
Has she had a psychiatric evaluation. Is there a history of mental illness in her family. Is she old enough to be a candidate for dementia?
give here some space shele come and tell you whats rong
The simple answer is that you cant help her until she asks you for help. Sometimes with depression the person cant talk about it because they really dont know why they feel like that. they haven't suffered in any way or lost anything but just feel like they have this huge crushing weight on them.

Just be there for her when she needs you but dont be intrusive. give her her space and develop your own life and interests so that she doesn't drag you into her misery. Sounds harsh but when she needs pulled out she will need both of your feet to be on dry land or you may both drown in her depression.

Also, try counselling, if she wont go, go yourself, its your life to and you need support to get you through it. good luck!

2 miscarriages back 2 back, need advice...help?

2010-04-27T08:10:00.001-07:00

I had an early m/c on May10th and just had another 2 weeks ago. They both were the same exact @ 5 weeks. I have to wait another 2 months before trying agin. My doctor said if I had a 3rd one then he would put me on Heprin and a baby asprin b/c it could be a clotting factor, and also they would start some genetic counseling and testing. We do not have problems on either side of our families. I am 33 and am ttc#1. Has anyone been in this same situation loosing two, and gone on to have a normal pregnancy??? I need some encouragement here, my friend just told me she is pregnant and I have not told her about m/c #2 yet. I know there must be someone who had 2 m/c and then had a child, please help. Thanks.2 miscarriages back 2 back, need advice...help?
One miscarriage is tough to handle let alone two. Sorry about your sad situation. The record that I personally can remember is a woman who had 8 miscarriages followed by a healthy boy. And then her very next pregnancy was a healthy girl!

Although the textbooks say it's worth it to do an investigation after 3 losses, I usually offer my patients the option of doing some workup even after 2 losses. There are five categories of problems that could contribute to recurrent loss and you have already touched on two of them (autoimmune, genetic). At 33, you could go either way, I think. Either launch a detailed workup or just wait for the next pregnancy which by odds should have better than a 50% chance of being a live born baby! So the odds are actually still on your side. It means your next pregnancy is more likely to be a a live born than to be another miscarriage.

There is a lot of hope actually. Best of luck!2 miscarriages back 2 back, need advice...help?
I actually know a few women who have had more than one miscarriage. My husband's bosses wife was just like you - her first two pregnancies ended in miscarriage. They now have twin daughters. I know other women who had successful pregnancies, then a miscarriage, then more babies.

I know how hard dealing with one miscarriage can be (I had one in January) and I'm almost dreading getting pregnant again, because I know I'll be worried about another miscarriage. For me, though, it does help knowing that early miscarriages are pretty common, I've read anywhere from 10% to 40% of pregnancies end in an early miscarriage.

Is your doctor concerned about your progesterone levels at all? I have to take a progesterone supplement after I ovulate now, it's supposed to prevent a miscarriage if I'm pregnant. It also prevents my period from coming if I'm not pregnant, so it's a bit of a pain. My doctor also wants me to get my progesterone levels checked as soon as I find out I'm pregnant again. I have PCOS, so it might be because of that.

Good luck!

Does anyone have any advice on how to help me get pregnant?

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I have been married for two years and Im ready to have a baby so Im trying to get pregnant, if anyone has any ways to help me please let me know. ThanksDoes anyone have any advice on how to help me get pregnant?
yep, have sex. lol ok ok that was stupid. i'm ttc as well, with my 2nd child, and what i say can help you, is buy an over the counter ovulation prediction kit- what that does is you pee on a tester, and it tells you your two most fertile days out of the month, on those days you should have sex with your hunnie, and hopefully it'll increase your chances of getting preggo.Does anyone have any advice on how to help me get pregnant?
well proper diet and exercise is a good start..so being healthy..knowing your ovulation cycle will help to...that way to best time when you should try... number of times will also affect this to...but as always it's not a guarantee its a chance and you will have to try often enough to increase your chances.

You could speak to your doctor about it if you have one...the will have the best medical advice on the matter.

For my wife and I...we found that we were ready mentally and physically so now we have a son....hes 3 now.

So you need to be ready many ways besides chemically and physically..

and as i was told by others( siblings and friends ) you are never truly ready until you have the child there in your arms and then you still have lots to learn and figure out and all..

So good luck..and I wish you and your significant other ..happiness
Sorry to go out of topic but hmm... well, few weeks back when I was having my hair done at the saloon, I was reading the babyTalk (from the U.S) magazine.

They wrote a review and recommended this website to TTC (trying to conceive) ladies.

They will teach you on eliminating fertility issues even if you're:

late 30s or 40's

have endometriosis

have tubal obstruction

have ovarian cysts or ';lazy ovaries';

without resorting to IVF or IUI procedures or drugs like clomid, fertilid, preseed

Here's the link that you're interested:

http://PregnantMiracle.readthis.ca
well yes there are lots of tips that can help you, i am TTc myself and this site has been wonderful this is what i use

go to amazon.co.uk this is a great site type in ovulation predictor kits, these kits are cheap, you pee on a dip stick everyday after your period, adn if the test line is the same or darker than the control line then you are about to ovulate (usually within 24/36 hrs) this is when u should get jiggy with ur man as its the best time to conceive, as soon as u see that dark line, and do it everyday the line is dark and the day the line is faint, cos that would show that you have ovulated and the sperm should be there waiting for the egg, also i use a BBT thermometer, this shows u your resting temp u do it first thing in the morning, before u even get out of bed so have it at arms length, a shift in temp shows that u have ovulated, you can chart ur temps at fertilityfriend.com (or co.uk) lol, using both of these methods together will give u a great advantage on when to coneive instead of just guessing

i hope this helps

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Condom Advice Ladies Help Me Out?

2010-04-27T08:09:00.003-07:00

Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for over a year now, we have always used a condom. I have no problem pleasing her, but I have never used ribbed condom. Right now I use Trojan ecstasy. However I would love to make it ever better for her. Any advice on any condoms that provide more pleasure would be great.

Thanks!Condom Advice Ladies Help Me Out?
I really like Lifestyle. My bf tried trojan before, but lifestyles wayy better, its thinner and for you, you'd feel more warmth.

Use the sampler package, forgot what it's called but there's 4 types in there. I loved the studded one =) feels way better and lifestyle's ribbed ones are better than other brands too.

You should definately try lifestyles, its the cheapest brand out there but it's the best, for my bf and i. =)

good luck.

Btw, im so glad that you're thinking of pleasuring her more with condoms, many people neglect them these days and then pregnancy and stuff come up. %26gt;%26lt;Condom Advice Ladies Help Me Out?
She'll love it but you won't feel a f*cking thing.

Bad brows need help and advice?

2010-04-27T08:09:00.002-07:00

I hate my eyebrows they are uneven and one is higher than the other and one is kind of thicker than the other and i told my mom i wanted to get them waxed but she doesn't really want me to. THey look horrible and i get embarrassed any way of fixing them easily or talking to my mom about getting them done?Bad brows need help and advice?
tell her that they bother you and make you unconfident and talk her into getting them done or have her give you tips.Bad brows need help and advice?
u could try and just pluck em till there even....

or try to convince ur mom to get them waxed: you could say that u would pay for it of 1/2 of it. or that u get embarrased and it would boost ur self-esteem
WAT U CAN DO IS TELL UR MOM IF U CAN CLEAN UR EYEBROWS AND NOT SHAPE THEM...MY MOM NEVER WANTED ME TO DO MY EYEVROWS AT FIRST SO I JUST CLEANED THEM...
You could mess waxing up doing it yourself the first time. Try tweezing one at a time, if you can't talk your mom into it.

I get my daughter's eyebrows waxed. It's pain for about 5-10 minutes and then beautiful. She's twelve.

It's tough being a kid and being embarrassed and self concious about stuff like that.

Have you had a heart to heart and let her know that you are embarrassed by them? Explain how it makes you feel. If you get made fun of because of it, let her know. What reason has she given you for not getting it done? It only costs between 10 and 15 bucks. Generally, you can get it done in any beauty shop. Next time ask while they are cutting your hair.

She could even wax them for you at home if you trust her not to mess it up. If they are uneven, it may take a trained professional.
You could do some research, try some girls magazines websites where they give girly tips and they'll tell you how to do it. Tweezing is definitely the best. Waxing hurts a lot more and doesn't last as long.
wax
Nu brows by Anastasia and castor oil overnighnt. Gonna help.)
You can tell your mom that you are embaresed and try to persuade her. if that doesnt work then pluck them with tweezers.
you don't need parental consent to get them waxed. it's very inexpensive, under ten dollars. you can get this done at any hair salon, even the cheap chain stores like great clips, etc. if it really bothers you, get them done by all means!
If you can't get them waxed, you should probably shape them yourself with a pair of tweezers. Draw on the shape you want with a white eyeliner, then just pluck the hairs that aren't white. Make sure you pluck just one hair at a time to check your progress. Plucking too many hairs can look just as bad as having too thick an eyebrow. Smooth a calming lotion on afterwards, but expect redness for a while anyway (don't do it just before you're leaving the house.)
just tweeze them. you can even them out yourself. its not that hard. just make sure you dont over pluck.
Find someone you know who has great looking brows from waxing, then find out who she goes to for waxing and go to that person. It will surprise you how nice a professionally waxed brow can look. Be careful who you go to though. There is a difference between getting brows waxed and getting brows styled.
1] go to google, and check how to pluck [ or shape ] brows

2] shower or bathe first

3] get a good magnifying mirror, clean tweezers, and good lighting.

4] pluck 3-5 hairs on one brow, then do other side [ so they stay even ]

5] pluck under, and between brows only - not on top

6] apply cold compress for 15 min after done, then witch hazel or toner [ not astringent ] to close pores
I know alot of girls who are in middle school or high school that get brows waked also try plucking them but just tell your mom it does not cost that much and it will up your confidence

Ps be careful when plucking that not too much is plucked
Shar! Ur Eyebrows look pretty! I dont tink deres anyting wrong wit em!! If dey bother u dat much dough maybe we could see if there's a place we could go get them done :)

I tink dey fine dough. U pretty!

Dearest,

Tiff Tiff
let em grow back full then got wax once ifmum will say yes then just keep up shape youself after ,,job done in the mean time use eyeliner pen to even out your brows same colour of course

Boyfriend help advice from boys and girls pleaseee?

2010-04-27T08:09:00.001-07:00

i go to an all girls school

so i neva see guys...and im not that pretty

so, if im not pretty and i neva see guys, what should i do if i wanna hook up...since i still neva have???

and what if i dont no how??

please i need advice and someone..

and what do guys like in their girls??

yeah thanksBoyfriend help advice from boys and girls pleaseee?
Someone once recommended http://www.GuysTeachGirls.com for one of my questions an i've been hooked ever since.

You will def get good answers there.

oh yea..you can just copy paste your question on there

Hope this helps! good luck :)Boyfriend help advice from boys and girls pleaseee?
Ok, honey you are beautiful and that it true. All you need to do is be in an environment where there mostly everybody rather than just girls and just guys. FYI everybody likes something different from a everyone else. For instance, I like people who would wear a rain coat at their prom when it's raining while everyone is soaking wet and doesn't want a rain coat 'cause they think it's stupid. Surround yourself with positive people with good personalities. But, before you jump think '; Do I want a guy to like me for me? '; And if he does, then God bless him. Everyone is unique is their own way. These things take time, but, as I always say you never know when you're gonna get something. Hope this helped, blessings!
Try going to the movies with some of your girlfriends on like Friday.

Then you will probably see some guys there your age.

Just start talking to them and alll. Then if you become friends with them. They have guyfriends.. and so on ahah.

Hope I helped!

I need help with presenting to 5th graders. Advice Please?

2010-04-27T08:09:00.000-07:00

I need to present to 5th graders about the difference between elements.

But the presentation needs to last 5 minutes, but I'm uncertain of how to make it last that long. Advice please?I need help with presenting to 5th graders. Advice Please?
I teach fifth grade...not science though, so i don't have a specific lesson to tell you. I would suggest presenting the information in a way that while you're talking they have something to look at. Also, if you can get them involved in doing something or moving around the room, they'll enjoy it more.

Good luck!

Anyone can help for me to give some advice for final yr project in electrical and eletronic engineering?

2010-04-27T08:08:00.003-07:00

Can anyone could u give me some advice more on electronic project for my final yr project. I have no idea wat to do. If possible can anyone reply me quickly. i m in a hurry for my topic.Anyone can help for me to give some advice for final yr project in electrical and eletronic engineering?
i cud advice u to have a project on car ignition using gsm-sms system. u can control the ignition of the car using a mobile phone. i cud advice u to have a look on a website of Wolfgang Rankl, http://www.wrankl.de/SMST4PIC/SMST4PIC.html.....

I need an advice about Uni, could you help me?

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PS: I need to improve my English, I know.I need an advice about Uni, could you help me?
In some ways, choosing your degree is a case of following your heart, but using your head as well - choosing something that you love will hopefully mean that you are more enthused about it, that you show up to classes, do your research, and do well, but you need to temper the love for a subject (heart) with knowledge of your future aspirations (head).

There is a difference between tourism, and tourism management - be sure you are aware of this.

You need a Bachelors degree before you progress to an MBA. If your goal is an MBA, check the admissions requirements, and consider these when you are selecting your bachelors course.

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Can someone help me with some career change advice?

2010-04-27T08:08:00.001-07:00

I am looking to change career as I have been teaching and as I am sure many others do, I have decided that it's not for me. I'm looking into working for a charity, as I love fundraising and have a passion for charity work. What I'm struggling on is how to justify this career move in my CV. I'm trying to write a good profile but don't know where to start :(Can someone help me with some career change advice?
Hi there

A good place to start is with a skills audit.

Think about all the skills that you have gained through teaching (or elsewhere) that would be transferrable to the kind of job you're interested and write lists

These might include things like the ability to engage audiences, a talent for disseminating complex information in an easily understood way and flexibility and responsiveness.

Charities are always looking for good fundraisers (paid and unpaid) and you can them frame those skills within the terms laid out in job ads

Your application might be more convincing if you have some quality voluntary work under your belt first, it doesn't have to be extensive, but being able to say 'reframed short and long term strategy for achieving 拢300k findraising target to reroof village church' or similar would certainly carry a lot of weight. You say you love fundraising so it sounds like you've already ticked this box?

You'd be competing against people with qualifications in the area so it might be worth considering an evening course in one of the Chartered Institute of Marketing (CIM) qualifications - available in a wide range fo formats at most universities and by distance learning. You wouldn't necessarily have had to have completed the qualification for it to help you get jobs, just the fact that you've started it can look impressive

I don't think you need to talk at length about your career change - it can sound awkward and 'she doth protest too much' when people do that. Just state matter-of-factly that you have realised this is where your talents and passions lie and then go on to evidence it with the details above

I hope some of this is useful - good luck!Can someone help me with some career change advice?
Hi!! Say i have been teaching now for (enter) and with the altering of teaching methods of late i have become disenchanted with the profession as have many others.

I have a passion for fund-raising, and charitable work and therefore i think that i would get more job satisfaction doing that work, as i used to have teaching before the constant changes that are experienced now.

Something along that framework will be OK. go to it and good luck.

I need advice on whether I should get this shoe size, can you help?

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Hi, I've never bought a pair of flats before and my size is usually a US 8 for women's sneakers. Should I get the same size for the flats or a smaller/bigger size?I need advice on whether I should get this shoe size, can you help?
The same size, unless you are planning to wear socks with your flats. If that's the case, then buy flats that are one size bigger than your sneakers. But usually when you wear flats, you just wear those footies, which are like socks but they just cover your foot/toe area, and not your whole foot. When wearing footies though, you get the same size flats as your sneaker size.I need advice on whether I should get this shoe size, can you help?
usually the same size fits.

why dont you try them on though, before you by them?
my runners are a half size bigger than all my other shoes. but it also depends on the brand of flat you are buying
i'm a size 8 in sneakers and flats. so i say go with the same size. unless you have like narrow or thick feet or something..
sneakers usually run smaller, so i would try eight and a half. but if it's your first time, i would go to a store and try it on
the same size should do it but try them on... and remember to take a pair of knee hi's so you get a goo feel of what they will feel like walking
I've always went with whatever size I am in sneakers for my flats and other types of shoes and they fit the same. So I'd try them on first because different companies for shoes tend to make them differently. Hope this helped.

Can you advice me any good web sites or forums with tips and help for creating web page?

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Can you advice me any good web sites or forums with tips and help for creating web page?Can you advice me any good web sites or forums with tips and help for creating web page?
www.hypergurl.com

www.dynamicdrive.com

Anyone who is good at advice please help!?

2010-04-27T08:07:00.002-07:00

I've only been going out with this boy for 3 days, and only because I felt bad for letting him down all the time and I really want to break it up because i feel really uncomfortable with him and i feel almost 'dirty' when I kiss him because there is no feeling in it.

How can I let him down gently without hurting his feelings but also show him that I only want to be friends?

I'd really like some help please cos I don't know what to do...

Thanks :)Anyone who is good at advice please help!?
tell him the truth. not the whole truth about Y ur dating him. just tell him that it isnt working out. say that it feels wrong because u see him as a really good friend and u dont want to mess that up. give him a hug and say (WHILE IN HUG)

plz, can we still be friends?

that should work.

good luck

ooo. and if he says yes. the quickest way to get out of really awkward situation afterwards. get out of the hug and smile at him, say thank you( NOT THX) and say ull text him tonite. when u text him ask him how he's doin. and try to talk about things u guys enjoy.Anyone who is good at advice please help!?
It's a three days old relationship, cant be even called a relationship

just dump him. Tell him i like ya but not as a boyfriend, you'll be perfect for someone but that aint gonna be me. Simple. Don't worry he'll soon get over it.
you cant just get it over with and if he is as nice as you think he is just don't wary abut it

I need help/advice in getting a fiance visa for my love!?

2010-04-27T08:07:00.001-07:00

I have met the man of my dreams here online, we are in love, and we want to be together forever. He has asked me to marry him. And he is in a third world country. How can I apply for a fiance visa without much expense and without consulting an attorney? And it is absolutely necessary that we meet in person before even being eligible for a fiance visa? Help!!I need help/advice in getting a fiance visa for my love!?
Don't you realize this is just a sham marriage scam?!! Sure he will treat you like a queen UNTIL he gets Permanent Residence Status. Then you will be beaten and mistreated or worse!

Use your common sense!

Don't believe me? Then look at the questions from the US Citizens who made the same mistake as you are going to make!

Tell him you are making plans to move to his country and renounce your citizenship and see his reaction!

DON';T DO IT!I need help/advice in getting a fiance visa for my love!?
You are being used.
A pre-requisite for the K-1 visa is that you must have met him in PERSON at least 2 years prior to filing the petition.

If you marry him,it will take him at least 3 years or more to just get the visa to come here.
You are being used as a way to enter the US. You can't be in love with someone you have not met.
You need to take help from an immigration law attorney. I will suggest you to take help from usalegalcare.com. They have got expert immigration law attorneys. Your problem will be solved very soon.

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Look on the internet for any of the agencies that advertise as Marriage agencies then look at the info at www.uscis.gov and she specifically for form I-129F READ all the information in the directions. There is virtually no way to do it without actually meeting her and ';having a relationship'; with her. You have to PROVE this meeting and they do look hard at it. Actually, it is better now, to simply marry her in the other country and then go and apply for a visa for your wife. It is quicker, cheaper, and she will not have to jump, through as many hoops to get her green card and will get citizenship sooner.

Or, if she wants to, she can just come to either Mexico, or Canada and walk across the border, as thousands do every day. Hey, they will get amnesty in a matter of months anyway, and probably will not have to wait for citizenship like all the stupid legal immigrants, not to mention that you will have to prove sufficient income and the illegals are exempt from that requirement too. Why be legal when the benefits are greater as an illegal, many ask every day?

WHERE CAN i GET LEGAL ADVICE OR HELP WITH FUNDS?

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if your looking for help with fund you can check out this site they are experts at debt solutions i dont know if this answerd your question but atleast i tried good luck

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Grip strength advice. Help with the Captains of Crush.?

2010-04-27T08:06:00.003-07:00

I bought the Captains of Crush #1 and i need some training regiments to do with it.Grip strength advice. Help with the Captains of Crush.?
the guys at dragondoor.com and dieselcrew.com love those things.

Give this one a quick read:

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';new stepmom';wants to start off on the right foot with hus exwife needs advice/help from single/ divorced moms

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ok toms exwife is a wonderfull/involved mom to thier only child who is 8 yrs old.She is still single and relies on my hus for advice/support regarding thier son who is her life.I know she is not happy about me being the ';new wife'; as she sees me in ';her place';.My question is i don't want to make trouble with her so what can i do or don't do to avoid conflict with her?What does your exhusbands new wife do that pisses you off regarding your kids?';new stepmom';wants to start off on the right foot with hus exwife needs advice/help from single/ divorced moms
I have no ill feelings towards my ex husbands current wife. I feel blessed that my daughter receives even more love ( a child cannot have too much love). Sometimes I get a bit of a jealous twinge when my daughter talks about good times she has with her step mom, but I get over it and am just happy for my daughter.

My best advice is try not to make the ex-wife feel threatened if she is an insecure woman. Make it clear that you only want the best for the 8 year and if you are in the situation that you can talk peaceably with the ex, maybe ask her for advice on the child (such as likes and dislikes of food and such), mothers love to talk about their kids and what they like. For the time being do not act as a mother to this child, more like an aunt or a friend until the ex can see that you are not a threat.

It seems like you are already doing what is right.';new stepmom';wants to start off on the right foot with hus exwife needs advice/help from single/ divorced moms
The best you can do it soudns liek you already are. Just be understadning that they, even though not together, have a child to raise TOGETHER. She may be afraid that you will try to take over as mom to THEIR child. Stepmom's can be special and can have a very special place in teh relatioships, you just have to find where that is, where YOU fit.

~~BEST OF LUCK~~

My husband comes from a divorced family, and his stepmothers insecurities have destroyed the entire family. Her NEED to be in the middle, my husband is not even allowed a man to man relationship with his father!! If stepmother is not directly involved then its not allowed. He now has nothign to do with his parents. This hurts everyone involved, so please don;t let your situation come to this. You need to stay secure in YOUR marriage. While his relationship with his son is with his son, and he must retain some form of relatioship with his exwife, his with you is WITH YOU and don't forget that. Nor should you let anyone intrude on that.
Well...to be honest...will you guys likely be shopping buddies or best friends? Probably not...but should you guys be able to have a phone chat or have lunch together every once in a while...ideally, sure.

My ex-husband has a new woman in his life, and I ust told him yesterday that when everything is ';kosher'; so to speak...she and I should meet. I mean, I feel like I should know a bit about the people who are permanent fixtures in the lives of children. And I would say, in the ex-wife position, I would find it a bit reassuring if the ';new woman'; were to talk to me...tell me she isn't trying to be ';mom'; and isn't trying to replace me...that she respects that I am the mother. And it would also make me feel better if, whem my girls ask a question about ';can I do this'; or whatnot...and she says ';Why don't we ask your mom?'; Also, no secrets from mom...surprises are one thing, secrets are another...

I guess, basically...treat her the way you home to be treated if you and your husband split up. (Not saying you will...jus imagine yourself in a similar situation.) Be honest and straightforward. You said she is a wonderful mom...why not tell her so? Compliments have a way of hindering paranoia.
Im going down the same road as you are, im the New woman you will say,, Keep in mind, we are all human...I tried the not making people mad and what not, it helps, but in the long run, do what you thinks best. My ';stepwife'; would cuz and argue with my now fiance for no reason if my name was brought up, by the kids or any thing, even if it was her... I had a talk with her, unfortunatly it was at the hospital when the baby had to go, but it helped clear the air...
My ex husband doesn't have a new wife and my daughter is an adult. I suggest inviting her over for coffee just you and her, no husband/exhusband and no child. Get to know her, talk to her about wanting to keep things running as smoothly as possible for the child and ask her for disciplining tips, find out what the child can/can not do in her home and implement the same rules in your home. You don't have to become best friends but it would be helpful if you got to know her style of raising her daughter to make it easier on everyone involved. Let her know that you're not there to replace her as mother to her daughter but want to be an extra source of help and support for both her daughter as well as herself.
Okay, so I'm not a divorced wife, but I come from a family of divorce. She pretty much doesn't have a choice but to accept that you are not a part of your husband's and his son's life. If I were you, I would just try and not be confrontational about things. If you are in a disagreement about anything, try and keep it from the son. Definitely make sure that she is included in family events, like birthday parties etc.

I know that my stepmom harbors jealousy towards my mother and that has completely affected everyone's relationships. My dad doesn't come around as much as he did before he remarried and when he is around her, he doesn't quite have the same sense of humor. I have a stepdad, too, but he's a pretty laid back kind of guy. My parents both remarried when I was in college, so I'm not in quite the same situation as your stepson.

Accident in Kansas, any lawyers or cops out there that can help with advice?

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Ok, hubby and son were in a wreck, truck is total loss. Getting off major highway, slowing down, had been raining, and took off ramp. No posted signs, no gaurd rail, and the drop is 40 feet. they hit a slick spot in the road, rolled the truck. My son swears they were going only 40 mph, ( he is a stickler -learning to drive ). The cops wrote him a ticket for speed limitation. But the thing is, there is no posted signs for speed, no signs warning of turns ahead and no gaurd rail. Now we have to pay for ticket and increased insurance. Do we fight it? Cops admitted there were a total of 5 other accidents there in the last 2 weeks for the same problem, and one lady suffered serious injuries. Anyone on here a cop or lawyer from Kansas? If the cops do not know how fast he was going how can they write a ticket for speed violation especially when there is no posted signs for speed there?Accident in Kansas, any lawyers or cops out there that can help with advice?
If there has been already accidents in the spot I'd definitely fight it as that demonstrates there's obviously something wrong with the road.

You can roll a truck doing 2 miles an hour. Your son should say they where doing 25mph since the cops are being so nice.

Btw the cops will be the first ones to say your son was right as soon as a lawyer will win him a case.

If you need a lawyer, these people are worth checking out, they'll only take the case if that's the area they are experts on http://legal.solutionsarticles.com/easie鈥?/a>

when you get to the site read their FAQ to know exactly how they work, good luck I hope you get some sort of damages back and remember don't take any advice from law enforcement people, they'll stick to one other like glue so as soon as you said they were ticketed they knew already what they were going to say, you just just need a good lawyer.Accident in Kansas, any lawyers or cops out there that can help with advice?
In Missouri, at least, there is a law on driving ';too fast for conditions.';

If they were unable to maintain control of the truck, then it's a safe bet they were driving too fast, given the rain. Even with no posted speed limit, that charge would stand (again, in Missouri).
Speed laws are not just about posted signs. There are other speed laws too.

Unreasonable speed

Too fast for conditions

Failure to maintain control

Unsafe speed

etc.

The fact he lost control and left the road will be used as evidence he was going faster than he should have been.
He was driving faster than was safe for the conditions. This was illistrated by the fact he rolled the truck after loosing control.
Yes, I think you should fight it! Get yourself a lawyer. Fight this, I recommend Henderson Law firm
Cristina, It's unfortunate to hear about your situation. I was injured once when a truck backed over my left foot at work. My employer attempted to settle with me quickly because they knew it wasn't my fault. I called a nearby personal injury lawyer in my city who gave me excellent advice and I was able to get a medium sized settlement to cover my medical bills that weren't covered by my primary insurance. I'd find a accident lawyer in Kansas. http://www.accidentlawyerlocator.com/Kan鈥?/a> My injury lawyer was willing to answer any and all questions I had because they stand to make some money at the same time. Try visiting a injury lawyer to see if they can help.

Sorry to hear about your situation.

I need some help and advice about ebay?

2010-04-27T08:06:00.000-07:00

I wanted to know is ebay trusted enough to give them my visa card number? I was think bout signing up today but I'm still thinking that if I give them my visa card number, It might get hacked, know what I mean. I'm from the US by the way. I was scrolling thru ebay and found some really cheap things that I like. I mainly looking gor gaming stuff. So I wanted to know is ebay trustable enough to give them personal information that won't get hacked and or leaked? Thanks alot to all in advanceI need some help and advice about ebay?
Yes. eBay is a publically traded, multi million dollar corporation.

You should have no problem giving them your credit card information. I have been on eBay for 9 years now.

All information is more secure that most places you would give your number to.

You can also review their privacy policy.

In conclusion, there is really no way to hack eBay, and I have never heard of any problem with security, and millions of people have done it.

Also, to sell, you need to verify a bank account with them, so you know that whoever you are buying from is a real person.I need some help and advice about ebay?
You could have a paypal (buyers acct.) for free. They keep your credit card information confidential. And as you know, most Ebay sellers prefer a paypal payment. It's easy; sign onto paypal.com. I've never had a problem and I now have an account to request money from clients for my home based business. It's been great.
eBay is safe to do c-card business with. Beware of people that call you or email you and offer a free ebay kit or web site. That is not ebay. They wanted my card number for the shipping charges and the kit %26amp; web site were FREE. I told them to ship the kit and I would send them a check. They hung up...checked with ebay and I was right...it was a scam

I Need advice/Help with my Siberian Husky?

2010-04-27T08:05:00.000-07:00

Hi

can anyone help me as i have tried everything my youngest sibe is coming up 6 months in a weeks time, and every opportunity she gets she will mess in the house she knows to go out as when i'm in the house she will let us know when she has to go but even if we leave her for 10mins to go to the shop or even upstairs she would have messed, as if she holds it for when where not there! we where advised to try using a crate but she would wait untill no one was there then mess in it after just being out 5mins previous i never had this problem with my first sibe whom i still have and is getting very frustrated by the little one's actions too. I would be most grateful for your advice and time, Kind regards Liam and KyraI Need advice/Help with my Siberian Husky?
Its not a house training problem, it's a stress problem!

She is anxious when you leave the room %26amp; this leads to messing in the house.

Have you shouted at her when you have returned to the room?

My GSD used to do the same thing. And heres the cure.

Get some treats that your dog loves %26amp; put them in your pocket.

Leave the room %26amp; shut the door. Count to 5 in your head %26amp; return to your dog %26amp; give her a treat without saying a word. Do it about 5 times in a session. Gradually lengthen the time. Say on the last time, run upstairs %26amp; then come down %26amp; go %26amp; give her a treat. Even if she has messed just give her a treat %26amp; say nothing.

You have to change the way she thinks so she doesn't get stressed. She will learn that you leaving her will bring her a treat %26amp; she won't get anxious %26amp; mess. Reward her with a treat everytime you return until she stops doing it. Then only reward sometimes. Good Luck.I Need advice/Help with my Siberian Husky?
Hi ya we have 2 sibes and a 3rd on its way.... our 2nd one who is nearly a year has done this a couple of times even tho he is toilet trained, we found that he has either been desperate or there is something new in the house that he is senting, or if he is upset about something.... Like a move or a change within the house, we found ourselves having to re-toilet train him by putting those puppy training pads by the back door, he is great now........ but will only do it too scent things goodluck
This is not a problem with housetraining as she is confident with asking to go out when you are around. She is messing as soon as you leave her only because she is anxious. This is called seperation anxiety.

You need to train her to be happy when left alone for very short periods. Use Kongs stuffed with delicious treats and chewy toys to keep her mind occupied when you leave her in a room for just a few minutes. Make sure you get back to her before she gets anxious and messes in the house. Over time you can increase the period she is left for little bit by little bit.

Some more tips that will help you decrease her anxiety when she is left alone is don't make a huge fuss over her just before you leave her or when you return. These times should be as calm as possible. If necessary, ignore her completely until she calms down and relaxes when you return to her - she needs to learn that your comings and goings are no big deal and there is nothing to make a fuss about.

Another thing is never tell her off if you find that she has messed while you left her alone. Remember that she did it because she was so stressed. If she then expects you to tell her off when you return, she will be even more stressed next time. It will make it even more likely that she will mess again - she doesn't associate you bing cross with doing the mess because you weren't there - but she does associate it with you coming back. You end up with a dog that is nervous about you leaving and returning and its even more difficult to sort out the problem. Instead, just ignore her until she calms down when you return, clean up the mess and then greet her quietly.

Over time, as she gets older, she will improve and you will learn what things help to keep her relaxed. Try leaving the radio on, waitin until she goes to sleep etc etc.

Good luck!
She sounds as if she cannot do her business in front of you. Perhaps whe was punished for something when very young and still remembers it?

Does she ever go in the garden? If not, then build her a low screen in one corner where she can go behind and feel safe to relieve herself. Good for you too! She will almost always go in the same place! But you will need to teach her that this is HER area and it is very safe to go here.

I take it that you have a large, secure garden (prerequisites for Sibes). Take her outside and be busy in your garden ALL DAY. Tidy it - cut the grass - do anything, but be out there and have someone out there all day being noisy and busy. If you don't do this, the second you go indoors and the dog is on it's own, it will do its business and you will be back to square one. So PERSEVERE. This will work in getting her to relieve in front of you.

Take the dog outside and have a big bowl of delicious food available along with a huge bowl of water. Keep the door to the house closed and now start your garden tidy. Have a barbeque if you must but have human presence at all times.

Now, Sibe + Food + Water = empty bowls.

Time + Digestion + Place = empty bowels!

You must watch the dog all day. At some point it will HAVE to go to the toilet - very possibly behind the screen.

If your dog DOES go to the toilet outside, then he is going to be THE best and most fussed up dog in the world right? Give him lots and lots of praise and little treats. The connection in his mind to this being a bad thing will snap and he will think 'Well this is not so bad at all!' I am again going to stress the watching of the dog. If you miss this, you miss the opportunity to reinforce good behaviour. A little while later, it will happen again. And again, make a massive fuss. Repeat as often as she does anything.

You cannot address the house training properly until you can get her to trust you enough to relieve in front of you. She is messing because she sees an opportunity to do it...possibly without getting punished for it. Almost as if to say 'It WASN'T me...it was the other one!' I don't know about you but I can almost imagine a Sibe saying this in their head!

Then you can start standard house training with appropriate punishment for doing it in the house.
If it continues try to set a pee pad for her so she can go inside. Maybe she doesn't want to tell you when she wants to go sometimes because she is scared that when you bring her outside you won't let her back in when she wants every moment to cherish with you. My dog was like that.
i think your dog needs encouragement try giving her a small treat when she goes out that might encourage her to go outside.or try a long chain in the backyard or a doggy door .a doggy door would work the most if she goes inside after numerous atempts try putting disiplin up a little more but dont be to harsh.when givig treats dont give to much or shell have to go mess
That is a ticky one cos wiv my dogs when they were puppies i would take them out side wait till the done what they had to do then put them in a crate go out . Most dogs dont like to mess in the area they sleep you could try catching her in the act and then say no furmley and the take her out side. before you go out take out side and wait there with her till she done. as a last opption you could try puppie training pads.

good luck

Baby shower advice/help?

2010-01-08T20:11:00.001-08:00

Hello.

I am 20 weeks pregnant with #1. I want to have a baby shower at about 30 weeks, but I don't know what to do!! I mean, i want to keep costs down, i was planning on having it at mum's. But apart from that, i don't know!! If i invited males and females, there would be about 40 ppl. If it was just females it would be about 15 people.

And should it be a lunch or an afternoon tea? And how can i do either of those easily? Bearing in mind that my family and i are health conscious and want to serve healthful foods.

Any suggestions would be helpful. Is it rude to go to a restaurant for lunch and get people to pay for themselves? Would they still be expected to bring presents then (I know that sounds selfish and rude, but i don't mean it like that).Baby shower advice/help?
Why not just have the shower at 2:00 in the afternoon, which would be after lunch and before dinner. That way no one is really expecting a meal, but maybe a nice snack available and cake. Someone should be throwing the shower for you so that you don't have to worry about these things! Baby shower advice/help?
You should be given a baby shower by your loved ones and not have to worry about planning anything. Normally baby showers are a surprise. I had four kids and got a surprise baby shower every time. So let your loved ones figure all this out and you relax and have a fun time. Good luck.
i think afternoon tea is the best time. you can get some suggestions at http://www.easyninemonths.com/baby_showe鈥?/a>
My Mom and my DH's mom and sister threw a baby shower brunch for me, we kept it to an all female guest list to keep it small. I am not a fan of large events but that is a persnal thing. For food they made a variety of delcious and healthy muffins , fruit trays and fruit kabobs, crescent rolls and a selection of danishes and we served coffee, tea and juices. It was very sweet and enjoyed by all who attended. Breakfast food seems to be more cost effective then lunches and sweets

Tea reminds me of sweet things to accompany it, I'm sure there a variety of healthy deserts, and fruit that could accompany it, A lunch is easy to design a healthy menu for also, sandwiches, veggie trays but is also likely to be a bit more costly depending on your decisions. I would recommend doing it at home/your moms so you can personalize it and enjoy more games and what not.
ok, so the traditional would be to just invite females, the women in my family are very good cooks. If your family is like that, maybe you could ask them to bring a food. However, if your family does not have get-togethers, you may have to take a survey on tastes and allergies for the people attending. Just to make sure that there everyone has a food they like or can eat.

As for time, mid-afternoon is perfect.

If you decide to invite only females,you will need less food and are able to talk about ';girl'; stuff. Usually if you invite men and try to talk about pregnancy or feelings the men get uncomfortable.

If you invite men, you will need more food. If you cant get your family to bring food, or enough food, i would suggest a catering service. some local services may give you a advertising discount. which means, if yo help advertise... like maybe on the invitations, they can give you a small discount.

Im glad if i could help in any way.

AM
Usually a friend or close relative throws the shower for you. I'd go for an afternoon kind of thing. I don't agree with inviting males to showers, but that's just my personal opinion and the way I was raised. I come from a very traditional conservative family that does things usually by the book according to etiquette guides. Emily Post and that kind of thing. If you end up having to do it yourself (shame on your friends) I'd go for a cake and some hor 'dourves. If you wanted to go out, I would not expect others to pay for it, so something at home would be nicer if you are short on cash. Usually people play small shower games with little favors as prizes. Congrats.
First of all,it probably be best to do it at your home.Costs are a big issue but many stores have low prices for items. You might not want to invite males but nothing is wrong with that if you do. The baby shower should be in the afternoon around 1 or 2 o'clock.

Different stores include:

Big lots

Big 99 cent store

Walgreen's

Walmart

You should have at least a couple games. Maybe like 4,or 5.

Theres a few cool games, and here are a couple websites that include games:

www.babyshower101.com

www.babyshowercentral.com

www.baby-shower.com

The food items can be quite tough to handle but you could do these:

Pick up maybe some Fruit/veggie trays

Get some pretzels

You could pick up some Turkey,bread and things to make sandwiches

Some cheese,crackers and little meat cubes

Prizes for the games:

Just look around in the stores I listed

What is a popular thing is to do is to have family members help put it together. Or you can just do it yourself.

Well if you want you can ask anymore questions, and Good Luck!

Oh and Congratalations

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First relationship advice?!? HELP? 10 points!!?

2010-01-08T20:09:00.003-08:00

I like this guy and he likes me. I want to date him but if i do, what kind of things should i do? DONT say anything nasty or inappropriate coz ur just wasting ur time. Im young and i kno im not supposed to but i want to get a bit of experience and learn from these mistakes im going to make. So any advice?

How was YOURS like?First relationship advice?!? HELP? 10 points!!?
You question should be what should I NOT do.

Talking to much is annoying to a guy

Asking questions about his family is out

talking about anything political or religious is out

talking about other guys is out

Asking a lot of personal questions about him is out.

Putting a lot of expectations on him is out.

Dating is just a interview to a possible relationship its the time to see if you as a couple are compatible. You do fun things laugh and frolic. Be yourself because that's who you really are.

I think my first real relationship of any kind was in 5th grade. She was next door and I played with her just like I would a guy. Sports cruzing the neighborhood looking for secret places, riding bikes. As to the sexual part I had already had plenty.. As time when on I had many girlfriends and soon we drifted apart..First relationship advice?!? HELP? 10 points!!?
Guys are after one thing You, That aside, you need to establish a relationship based on honesty and communication. If you don't know each other what else are you going to do? Sex will not make up for not knowing him or him knowing you. I tried that lasted a few months was fun, but had not basis. Wish it never happened would have been better without that one. Now it.s look for a relationship all else will follow. Date him and get to know him you to be friends, then lovers just because your close don't mean you have to have sex even if most guys think that way.

Need help/advice for trying to conceive?

2010-01-08T20:09:00.002-08:00

My husband and I are trying to conceive baby #2. Problem is I have a different cycle every month. I may have 25 days between periods one month and the next month be 28. This month in particular I started 30 days in between. Anyone have any advice or knowledge on when would be a good time frame to conceive with such different days every month? Thank You all in advance for the info or advice. :)Need help/advice for trying to conceive?
My doctor told me this

From the first day of your period

Add ten days

Have sex every other day, five times(different days)

This should cover most people time

You can always add days at both end to make sure

every other day, to get good strong swimmersNeed help/advice for trying to conceive?
just have sex every other day from day 10 until day 18 (alot of people actually ovulate later then earlier).
Try taking your basal body temperature (BBT) everyday from day 1 of your cycle (ie your period). BBT is your body's ';resting'; temperature. Best when taken 1st thing in the morning, at approximately the same time every morning, before you get out of bed. Then chart your temperature every day. When you see your BBT spike, it means that you have ovulated/are ovulating.

As a rule of thumb, 3 to 4 times intercourse per week will help you conceive. After intercourse, rest your buttock on a pillow for at least 20 minutes to allow as much semen as possible to stay in your body.

Good luck!